Rabbit Rabbit, almost May, welcome to this episode of “Real Life.” Don’t let the title scare you!! Let the MUSICA do it!😢
The question posed to me over and over again this April: Responsibility. What is it and why do we have it? I think if you 
have children, the minute they are born, responsibility kicks in for a lifetime. I don’t know, because I don’t have children and so that ultimate responsibility was never mine. Looking back, I think for the most part I got to pick and choose my responsibilities😸, they didn’t land on me like care of children must inevitably do. Children help you notice the years are going by. I forgot to do that. But sooner or 
later, life tells you you better take responsibility or you’ll be in trouble. Warning lights show up whether we like it or not. That’s when life decisions can no longer be ignored, you find yourself adding up numbers, weighing pros and cons, living in denial as much as possible, suddenly seeing your surroundings in a way you never noticed before, writing a will🤪, and PLANNING for something you have no idea what it is, or when, or how, or even why, because 
you’re secretly only 23, and very busy, and you don’t DO responsibility. But for some unfathomable reason, to fit into rules not of my making, we’re being forced into it. I would prefer to do TODAY, exactly what I did YESTERDAY, forever. Operative word is forever. Where is my dad when I need him, he had all the answers! So ’round and ’round we go, listing pros and cons, meditating on it, clarifying options, and getting a handle on consequences (guessing, because who knows), debating with myself, debating with Joe, seeing truth but fighting the impulse to lie to myself (I know, that always works🙄), crying while out on our walk ~ and then, back home, my eyes fall on the little stove on top of my big stove, something with zero PRACTICAL value besides cuteness, and I think well, if we have to go, I’m taking that.🤜🤛
Still hard to say … But in a nutshell, Joe and I have decided for our old age, it’s best we 
move to our house in California and sell our house on the island. So many reasons, but number one is the one most of us have to wrestle with, our financial situation … this big old house requires constant maintenance, and if we sell it we will have enough money to ensure our security in the future. All the back and forth, all the worry comes down to that. Now that we’ve finally accepted it, we’re trying to take it one day at a time. We’re in good health, and once it’s all done, if we live through it, we’ll see where we are and what our future holds. I’m sad, but excited too. Change like this brings both losses and gains. Living in this big old house has been the BEST thirty-five years! A dream come true, a miracle. And when we go? We take our memories and go to MORE Beauty!!! Don’t be sad for us, it’s life, the beautiful, wonderful, mystery of right thing at right time. I guess we always knew this day would come. We’ve decided to love each other through it.💞 I’m drinking tea from my Blessed cup this morning.💖
I think back on the years I’ve been writing Willards (LOOK on the right of this page, scroll down to ARCHIVES!) … put all that writing together and it’s a diary! The longest memoir in the history of womankind! You’ve been with me through it all, and often going through just exactly the same thing at the same time! And now, this. I know we aren’t alone. You know I’ve been homesick all my 
life … when I’m in California, I want to be on the Island… when I’m on the Island, I miss California. So actually, nothing changes, the homesickness continues.💝 As my mom would say, “so spoiled.” It’s all those fairy tale books I read, not my fault.
Just like everyone else, we didn’t know how to do this. And just like everyone else, we’ve had to make it up, CREATE it. We needed all the help we could get, so I Googled, “Biggest mistakes made when retiring” (in 
so many words, even if you’re NOT retiring!). “Get ready,” they all said, “you will be old someday, get yourself organized.” Heard it for years, didn’t do it. But hearing it so often, you have to (⬅️😱) believe it. We had to figure out what is going to be best for us in the long run. There are helpful studies online that result from questioning people who’ve been through it. Safety 
was big. Which means, no narrow, steep, ship-like stairs like these built in 1849 by a whaling captain. One-floor living is a requirement. Climate is also important, tying in to safety: Snow is heavy, ice is slippery, don’t get near it. Healthcare and senior services: You should not have to get on a ferry to get that because what happens if the ferries don’t run? Money: cut expenses so you don’t accidentally run out. This was the big one (and the tipping point) for us: no giant old “money-pit” houses (as our accountant referred to our house) that require constant care, where heating costs as much as a house payment, and chores require getting on ladders. And the number one biggest mistake people make, they say, is waiting too long. Grrrr.😲
“So far life had just happened to me. I had to figure out a way to happen to it.” 💖 me
I wrote those words in my memoir “Martha’s Vineyard Isle of Dreams.” I have never liked it when life happened to me, I have always wanted to feel as if I’m making a choice, and if it’s wrong, then I only have me to blame. And although our financial 
situation limits your average zillionaire’s full-range of choices, I can still choose some things. For instance, I can choose how I’m going to look at this. I could either up my anxiety medicine, or choose joy. I choose joy. I choose the Pollyanna Glad Game that’s gotten me through life since I was 8 years old. I choose to find the good, go forward positively and follow my dreams, we are NOT going to be destitute. And I’m not done yet, but that doesn’t matter, they say, you must prepare yourself. So I walk around with all this in my head, and there, all spread out on the kitchen table where Joe has left it for me, is the newspaper.
And look what it says! The unstoppables! All in their 80s and 90s, lucky to have good health, and they still work because they love it. I imagine they are all have lots of help around them, they probably have children and grandchildren, money is likely not a problem ~ and definitely they don’t have to climb whaling-captain 
ship-stairs to get to their bedrooms, but look at them! Totally inspiring. They may have had to change lifestyle a bit, but that didn’t mean everything was OVER. It didn’t stop them. And I don’t think it’s because of their ambition as this article says, I think it’s LOVE. Love of life, love of what they do, love of the people they’ve come to relate to and care for through their work. Do people ever tire of spreading love? I don’t think so. Nothing is EVER perfect, but these people, and so many like them, happen to life and don’t let life happen to them until they absolutely MUST. I want to be just like them when I grow up!💖
Yes, it’s hard; overthinking is the thief of confidence ~ but in my studio I found these cards ~ keepers, all together on a shelf. I put them on the fridge to share with Joe. The first one was painted by Kate Taylor, sister of James, a WONDERFUL singer and artist and person, and our friend. Her card says it all.’Course we can!💝
And this postcard about sharing experiences with your bestie…
And this card, so perfect for us, given to me by Joe for our anniversary . . .
And his sweetest words that brings us right back to
You Me, We Can Do This.
Reminding us our whole life has been an adventure, why not now?
There are two ways to look at it. As either our greatest loss ever, and or as another fantastic gift of life adventure. I 
question it constantly, cry sometimes, but then I read the birthday card Mother Seraphima and the sisters sent me that says, “Life isn’t about what you hold in your hands. It’s about what you hold in your heart.” And my heart keeps hold of it all. So, I think, year-’round gardening can NOT be a bad thing. Roses! The sale of Spring Street will enable us to pay off our debts. I hate debt. It makes me feel like I weigh 300 pounds. I will LOVE living near Kellee, Sheri, and Judy again, I feel empowered in our meetings so filled with inspiration. We do better when we’re together. I will love waking up to the gurgling 
water fountain outside our bedroom window, and looking out my kitchen window, past the bird feeders in the mimosa tree, at the long green farmland ~ all that glorious nature. I will love Trader Joe’s. I will love living a simpler life, will love wine with Diana next to the water, love painting at the same art table where I wrote my Autumn Book, with a view of our picket fence garden, will love a large garden project. But the things I will miss are uncountable, the history, the years, but number one, I can barely write this, are our wonderful friends. But we know we’re coming back, for as long as we are able … we’re just not coming in summer,
when the humidity melts me into a puddle. And not in the long months of winter, which, despite its many charms, can trap us inside like a perpetual pandemic. We’ll come in the spring to see the weeping cherry trees in bloom, the magnolias, and the dogwoods, for the tulips and daffodils ~ and in the fall, for the smell of autumn, for the leaves flying in the wind, for the colors, and the sweaters. And I imagine it will be more magical than EVER. All part of the adventure. All part of the gratitude, the pure gift I’ve been given in this life. I refuse to be sad, when happy is so easy. I have always loved the flow of life, and that hasn’t changed. I will say the thing I say every day, thank you God.💖
So we are packing up to move! And allowing ourselves to be excited! Because it’s exciting! I walk by the dining table where I am gathering things to take, and hear tiny, squeaky, excited mousie voices all talking at once, “why are we here, what are we doing, where are we going . . .?” The “children” are excited … Petey too! He’ll be in the old Fine Romance Van (ie garden truck), along with us, and Jack, when we drive them across country to their new home. Luckily everyone is up for the adventure! And we’ll bring you along! I’ll have to Instagram the trip! I think Jack will love being the center of attention 24-7. And I will love having him with us.😻
Downsizing! We’ll have less than half the square footage in California! Which I will love. I already feel liberated! I’m taking all our very favorite things and just LEAVING the rest of it, walking away, for an estate sale. From six sets of dishes, I narrowed it down to two! Proud of me? And everything is going to go with green. Because guess what? I get to REDECORATE! There is good in everything. You’ll see! I can’t wait to show you! Don’t cry for me Argentina. I am going to eight long green acres in the quiet sunshine where gardenias and artichokes grow.
So upward and onward: Life goes on.💝 This will cheer you up! MAS MUSICA! (The kind of MUSICA my house has always loved.💞 I tried to bypass it, but they seem determined to throw commercials in, hit “skip!” It’s worth it!!💝) I’ve always loved dolls, my mom did, and so do I. But she never let herself collect them, and me either because I just can’t bring myself to have a room full of dolls, I love them too much, they would overwhelm me (Joe would kill me), I have no doubt! I go to doll stores, alone, whenever I see one, very dangerous. Even bought one for my mom. But, I’m just too boringly practical. Almost always.
So the other day, on our way to our walk, there were signs along the road pointing to an estate sale … it was a beautiful, sunny blue-sky day so we decided to go. Because when you’re moving and trying to downsize, the first thing you think of is “Let’s go get more stuff!” (And I call myself practical🙄) But LOOK at her. ⬇️ I can’t help it, I BELIEVE her to be beautiful!💝 Wm. Morris would HAVE to approve . . .😊
She’s tiny. She has a hand-painted face, and hand-painted shoes and socks. Her underclothes were clean, but her dress was very dirty and I did my best to clean it, soaked it with lukewarm water and a drop of bleach . . .
One of the sleeves had come apart so I sewed it back together.
She read some of my books while she waited for her dress to air dry. I found her chair at the estate sale, too! And I know exactly where she will go in the house in California! She will be driven in the van with me and Joe and Jack and Petey.💝 My other dolls.
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And here she is … I had to show you her dancing legs . . .
What else? So much ~ Kellee is getting new things into the Studio every day. I can’t keep up!
All my paint boxes have to be packed up and I have a jillion of them. I don’t know why. I keep thinking there might be a color out there I haven’t seen yet. Taking no chances. And they DO make better colors all the time . . . Look at these I just got:
Aren’t they gorgeous? In cork! I’ve never seen that before. The colors are so rich and vibrant and they flow beautifully from brush to paper! I’ve already started using them . . .
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Even the BROWN is gorgeous! I got them for you too! I also found ⬇️ the sweetest little pad of textured 100% cotton watercolor paper with a vegan leather cover.💖
I’ve always wanted to offer a little set of wonderful watercolors ~ just hadn’t found the perfect ones yet. I still haven’t been able to get brushes, sorry … but my two favorite paintbrushes 
are Windsor Newton #1 and #4 ~ you can find them at Blick … everyone should give it a try! Look what happened to me! Total accident, but fun for a lifetime! Don’t think you have to be perfect, there is no such thing. Original, no matter WHAT, is best. 💖 Do it your way! And there are so many wonderful teachers out there! Sign up for something! Think of all the nice people you’ll meet! Watercolors are like music, some very ethereal and light, some very dark and opaque, shivering high notes and intense low notes, lighthearted joy and depths of heartbreak, spring and fall, the fast and the slow, some spreads forever, some is short and stops abruptly… do it to your own song and you’ll be doing it right.🧡 Maybe, just maybe, when we get to California, I will learn how to video myself and try to give an art lesson! That would be interesting. I barely know how I do it myself! 💖
My collection of heroes is heading west too . . . I’ve been collecting these die-cut hero-cards to inspire me in my studio since George Washington arrived as a wedding invitation way back in the 80s. Slowly over the years, in bookstores and other assorted places, I found the others, from Mark Twain, to Jane Austen, and all the others. Everyone asks me about them … And Kellee found them for our webstore!
“Susan’s Picks” this week are all about Mother’s Day . . . including this greeting card I made for all the nurturer’s in your life. We also have the guided books I made for moms and grandmas to tell their stories and record their memories. Every day is Mother’s Day in so many of our hearts.💝 Speaking of which, for the Mom’s in your life:
Something new! We have a Girlfriend who makes these wonderful gold filled necklaces for us, perfect alone or for layering ~ so dainty, this one we call Counting my Blessings . . .
I am a heart girl so when I saw this one, I had to have it, and needed them for you too! So here we go! You can see the gold heart necklace HERE. (The little flower necklace you see with it is coming soon!) I hope you love it! They all come on these little cards and in a clear envelope and look really good together!
I’ve had a chain like this for a long time and love how the light picks up the little extra detail of the beads … so when I saw these I was thrilled I could offer them to you. They come in either gold OR silver ~ I wear it on its own, or add a pendant ~ it’s like a jewelry-box staple. You can see it on Kellee HERE.
Lots of new cards … these have simple summer drink recipes, reminding us to celebrate EVERY wonderful moment.☀️
And these wonderful Alphabet Stitch Kits finally came back in ~ with everything you need, including instructions, needle, and embroidery floss. Make something you can pass down to your family. This one is mine, but that space there at the bottom is for you to embroider your own name and the date…💝
But honestly, despite packing and worrying, and now instead of worrying, meditating and remembering, despite all that, I look outside and see this and go get my phone!!! Who wouldn’t!?
forsythia, magnolia trees, and garden mulch . . . part of the flash dance of spring . . .🌸 Yes we’re going, but the garden says, Hey, don’t forget me . . . and we never will.🪴🪴🪴
Went out to dinner with friends and this was the view on the other side of the window . . .👀
Driving home under a full moon . . . I’ve had forty-two years of Martha’s Vineyard full moons.😱 At LEAST 504 of them, not counting the Blue Moons! Brought here, I don’t know how . . . How lucky can you get!!!? And I hear there are full moons in California too!💃🏼
Our morning walk has been a pure gift … red bucket and flip flops on the beach this beautiful morning and no one else around! Inspires Morning Science!
And the sunsets . . . 
and new blooms . . . forty-two years of the surprise of Spring . . . I have loved this house to its very soul, and it has loved me back to mine. A part of me is embedded here forever and I could not be happier about it. The world turns, spring passes, summer comes, all is as it should be.💝
Here we go! Off to the next adventure! Good bye April . . .💝
Hello May 🌸
Plant up a storm Girlfriends, all the flowers of all the tomorrows are in the seeds of today!🪴 All Love, all joy, all hope, all truth, all courage, to all of you, all the time.💞
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Holy cow, I am gob smacked! And I’m not even British! I live in a suburb of NYC. I’m just going pretend you’re still on the East Coast. ☺️ Really, wishing you and Joe all the best things, safe and easy move “home,” and every blessing. Hope you’ll share your new place when you’re ready. Excited for you!!
Of course I will! xoxo Thank you Maria!
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Dear, dear Sue. I read your Willard with shock and sadness, then understanding! I get it. My husband and I retired last year and I get it. How wonderful for you, Joe and Jack! Congratulations and keep a box of Kleenex handy but also get those paints packed up; we need you and your beauty. Sending so much love your way and a big hug.
Oh Susan,
Parting is such sweet sorrow. But so many of your tears are tears of joy for the good times, the memories, the love and God’s great abundance in your life. You could write a book listing them all! Through all the hills and valleys you have kept your great positive musings that encourages us all. Look forward to hearing all about this new chapter of your life… no,it’s a new book of your life!
Yay, we will be neighbors again!
Love from,
Lynn in Morro Bay
I dont think I closed my stunned, open mouth through this whole Willard! But then I thought surely this was all Gods plan. You were out there cleaning out and sprucing up the California house because He knew thats where He next was planting you! New projects, new stories, fresh inspiration. You are truly blessed you have that. All the love and beauty youve put into the island house all these years. Youve been the best keeper. Now may you entrust it to, who knows, maybe another girl that has a story to write and her owns dreams to live and will have her own passions as the new caretaker. I wish you and Joe joy and love and hope in this new adventure not everyone gets!!!! Love and hugs!!!
My sister sent me this. You may have read it before: Whistling in the dark by Frederick Buechner, 1988. (I think)
“When you remember me, it means that you have carried something of who I am with you, that I have left some mark of who I am on who you are. It means that you can summon me back to your mind though countless years and miles may stand between us. It means that if we meet again, you will know me. It means that even after I die, you can still see my face and hear my voice and speak to me in your heart. For as long as you remember me, I am never entirely lost.”
What a precious letter! Thank you for it. You have spoken to my heart so many times.
Wow Susan, that is momentous news. Your adventures on the island have brought joy to so many people, and closing this chapter of your life must be very poignant and emotional. True to form you see this as the beginning of a brand new adventure. Your perspective on things inspires me and will continue to no matter where you live. I also grew up in CA and there is something magical about coming home. Wishing you and Joe all the best. 💖
Bittersweet post for sure, my heart aches a little at the change. I have loved New England through your words and pictures all these years, so it feels a little sad. But, we go forward, with joy and anticipation of the days ahead.
As a 3rd generation Southern California girl, I know what you’re moving too, and it’s hard to feel sad for long because you are coming back to one of the most magical places there is. Welcome home! Saying a prayer for you and Joe and Jack on your move….
Good luck! It’s a hard decision but it’s an adventure! 🚙🐈☀️📦
Change always comes with a bit of fear and sadness, embroidered with excitement. Downsizing is also so very hard as is giving up things which you have treasured for so long. When I had to leave the U.K. in November of 2020 to move back to Canada, it was really hard. I couldn’t afford to bring anything with me really but what I could fit into two suitcases. Not a lot to show for 64 years of life, but I got through it! Having to just walk away like I did really put a lot of things into perspective. I am living my happiest life ever now. I wish you and Joe all the best in this new adventure you are going on! I am sure that what awaits you is your happiest life ever to come! Love and hugs!
Marie, you are amazing! We had nothing when we were kids, except our youth and our idealism. I think we might feel younger when we have less! Lighter anyway! I like the thought of it!😘
I hope your moving adventures go well! I love reading your blog, no matter where you are at. California will be a nice change of pace! Plus, you can’t beat one-floor living, I know I love it! 🙂
Go. Be. Create. For. Yourself. Then, come back for us!
We’re in it together!💋
Dear Susan (and Joe),
You always talk about the beauty around you – in the world, in your home, everywhere. As we get closer and closer to the time of our passing from this earth, I feel such an urge to tell you about Jesus Christ, my Savior & Lord. I hope that you both have trusted in Him to save you from your sins, as I have, and as so many others have. When we know Him personally, beauty will continue after we die; however, if we don’t believe in Him, there is nothing left but darkness and suffering … for eternity. Please trust in Him today, if you haven’t already. Your friend, Beth Barnat
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Dear Susan, how clearly you’ve wrapped all my emotions into the gift of this Willard. I mean it! Every single one of your thoughts and emotions has crossed both my husband’s and my minds as we enter this era of overwhelming responsibility. We’ve handled all the others, raising children, watching grandchildren grow, jumping some difficult health hurdles, facing heartbreak and difficult challenges. But through it all our love after 55 years still remains steadfast. We both are trying to determine our future and the decision of how/when to make changes we don’t want to make. It is a daunting dilemma. Thank you for sharing your courage and positive affirmations. We can do it too! Somehow it will happen. Congratulations on your new adventure. I will miss knowing you’re in Massachusetts but I truly understand your motivation to live in a friendlier climate. Now you have a plan and I wish you the best of luck! May you be blessed with peace and contentment as you navigate through the upcoming weeks. Your departure will be bittersweet. Be very proud of your indomitable spirit that has inspired us for many years and will continue to do so. Please move forward with contentment and know that you are loved. Blessed be… ❤️
Thank you beautiful Ellen! xoxoxo💋
Oh my goodness, a basket of emotions reading all of this. Susan I wish you and Joe all the happiness your hearts can hold. Change is hard, but new journeys bring new life. I was so proud of you both reading this. Hopeful and real you are. I loved reading about the doll and I am huge fan of hearts myself. Always the old soul…I have enjoyed your blog for years and at 45 it is just the beginning. I read a reflection yesterday on not waiting but starting now. Today. Whatever your dream…start today. I found that inspiring and started making the jewlery I have been talking about for 2 years. I thought of you and watercolor and how you just begun and there it was. We don’t have to be perfect…just start. Much love to you. Be safe, happy and keep us posted.
Oh, Susan! I am heartbroken! I do understand–but I hate things to change. I have followed you from Holly Oak up to this Willard. I have copied your wonderful sense of decorations that are just perfect. That will not change, but it seems to be such a part of New England. As you say, though, you can visit. Here’s an idea–can you buy Holly Oak? You would make a fortune on Air B&B and still have it when you visit. That house is in your soul, too, I imagine. Honestly, I cried at this news but I wish you much happiness in the Calif. sunshine. I lived there for years and now am in a suburb of Chicago. I don’t mind the snow but I really miss the sunny days of Calif. You are moving to the place you just cleared out, is that correct? You will put your own wonderful stamp on it as you have always done. Wish I could hug you. Marcia Ceisel
I feel it Marcia … thank you so much. xoxoxo
Best of luck to you both. Your east coast girlfriends will miss you! Traveling to England will be even more of an adventure!!
My heart aches for you both. But you are doing the right thing. My husband and I downsized to a small house at the young age of 70. We have no mortgage and no debt. I missed my old home in the beginning but life became a lot less worrisome knowing we made a good financial move. I must be honest, I look forward to going on this journey with you because there’s rainbows ahead. xoxoxoxo
That’s the part I’m looking for! We’ll be debt free too, and I can’t even IMAGINE how wonderful that will feel!💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼
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…oh, Susan, you GO ! girl ! I’m so proud of you and happy for you…what an adventure you and Joe are in for ! ❤️ Such an inspiration you are and always have been…thank you for sharing this awesome journey !..we all send so much love and good wishes ! ☺️ Onward, to beautiful California ❤️ ..with love, as always !
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Oh Susan, what a hard decision to make, I can’t imagine. Yet I can. We are in the same boat. Ready for a new adventure, but what adventure will it be? As our son prepares to marry in a few weeks, a new chapter for him and new chapters for us. Our minds still say we are 30, but when I look in the mirror I wonder who is looking back at me. I imagine you and Joe struggled with this decision, and I can’t imagine leaving your beautiful home. But off to new adventures and new memories to be made. California welcomes you home, new beaches to walk, new gardens to plant, a simpler life, and aisles of Trader Joe’s to be explored. Wishing you all the best as you pack up treasured trinkets and memories, and head this way. Safe travels and we look forward to following your journey. Hugs, Terri
I will miss the gorgeous pictures of your house in fall and spring. We’ve lived in our house for 35 years and I don’t know how I will cope with moving either. I tell my family we will have to look at is with joy and adventure when the time comes. I’m glad to see others feel as I do. Stay happy and positive.🩷
After the newsletters on your CA home and the moving/l-e-a-v-i-n-g process, I was so surprised you are selling your Island home. (That is where I think of you living in my head and it feels sad although I understand the reasons.). Well, please continue to bring us along on your emotional, literal and literary journey. I’m glad you will re-visit in the spring and autumn … “If ever I would leave you, it wouldn’t be in …” I can hear Richard Harris singing to Katherine Hepburn.
Please be careful with Jack including once you are in CA. Kitties, even wild roaming ones, have been known to have a homing gene related to place. We all love him, too.
You and Joe (with Jack) keep heading towards joy. xx
Mmmmm, that song …I never could go . . .
I will butter Jack’s feet as soon as we arrive! I will be sooooooo careful!💖
What a decision but the right one for you and Joe. You will make your next home just as special. I’m so sure you will not miss winter in New England!
Good luck with your move and I look forward to your upcoming posts. I have loved your books and everything you do.
Leslie
OMG, I never thought this would happen, but I totally understand. We did the same thing in selling our Cape home and downsizing to Plymouth. It almost killed us as we didn’t listen to the words of preparing for the inevitable, but it’s almost been a year and it’s good! You are so lucky you have a place that you love to go to. Just the other day at our DAR meeting I called myself a ‘Branchy’ as I showed the group your newest tea mug which I bought to go into a tea basket for a fund raiser. I hope you’ll still have talks when you travel back East! Also please let us know when your estate sale is, I cherish the wonderful things I bought at your last yard sale! Keep us informed and best of luck to all of you! xoxoxoxox
I’d love to come speak in Plymouth sometime, I LOVE that town!!!💖
Well you know you have a girlfriend here!
I an crying.💧I have moved a number of times tearfully leaving beloved homes and towns behind. So I know how you are feeling. But you are on to your next adventure.
A few months after i retired I got a phone call from my newly single daughter asking for help with before and after school care for her daughter. I left my much loved home in Florida, sold our boat, and chose favorite things to pack. I gave tons of dishes and books to Goodwill. I packed and hired movers, packed the tv, dogs, and clothes in both cars and headed to coastal North Carolina.
Long story short I love where we have been these last 11 years. My daughter remarried 5 years ago and we moved into her house that she had built 10 years ago. It has zero stairs, is easy to clean, 1,000 square feet, and a beautiful back yard. We can age in place here at the reasonable rent she charges.
Tuck your memories in your heart and get ready for YOUR next adventure. Every word in this Willard is so filled with joy. You perfectly spelled out every reason why you guys decided to move.
I wish you much luck and happiness in this decision.So WHEN is the move date???
In the next month or so!
I just finished reading your new Willard and am feeling a bit sad. But then I think, this is Susan who’s making a move, and if anyone can do it with a smile it’s Susan! Yes, I’m sure it won’t be easy for you, but after years of following you and reading your uplifting posts I know you’ll be fine. Change IS hard sometimes, but once you make the change it’s behind you and it’s onward from there. Knowing you’re returning to your beautiful home in California where you have friends waiting for you is wonderful! I wish you and Joe all the best and look forward to your posts from the west coast!
Love that you’re going ‘home’ to SLO Co! Big decision, but sounds very wise!
Take care, dear ones….♥
I bet this news will set the all time number of blog “comments” record! Congratulations on an island life well-lived and a move back to an old home place that is spectacular too!
Best comments!!!!❌⭕️
what a difficult decision for you and Joe! But I say…..welcome back to California! Know your new spot well as spent time camping up that way several times at Montana de ORO. I’m a native California gal. Met you both at book signings in SLO and Montecito! Live south a bit in Newbury Park. You will once again fall in love with the weather, amazing sunsets on the coast and all the new wineries on central coast. Travel safely to our west coast. I’ve enjoyed years of your newsletters sharing your beautiful east cost life and nature’s bounty. Bless you both on this new adventure!
I did this two years ago…moved from a home I had lived in for twenty-five years…a home built in 1886 with so much charm…and the backyard! I loved it. I dreaded the time when I had to say goodbye, but the closer I got to it, the more excited I got about moving! I had actually fallen down the steep wooden stairs and broken my neck in that house! By the time I was packed up and pulling away I didn’t really mind at all…and I was OFF…to a new adventure on 38 acres and a single-story, easier-to-navigate home. I’ve never regretted it.
Oh My Gosh, now that is quite the warning sign!!! So positive! Doing it!💖
Oh my! I don’t know whether to cry or be happy for you. Obviously, from this post, it is both. But you have left heart parts on both sides of this country, so wherever you are is happy. I know this was a most difficult decision, and it sure sounds as if you’ve made the right one for you, for now, for next. You have great courage! Life can be so challenging, but that just gives cause to overcome. You take/bring beauty with you wherever you go, so any place where you are is best. So carry the beach walks, the glorious sun rises/sets, all the color and smells and soft sounds with you. Sigh–you’ll be further from England. Thank you for already chronicling all those glimpses. Together forever, you and Joe, going forward.
Wow – big news!!!
Sounds to me like you & Joe are making the right decision; for one, as you write, growing old in a two-story house with narrow stairs would be tough.
I wish the two of you all the best with sorting, packing, moving. It will be fun to be part of the process via Instagram and Willard.
I live in your place of birth, Long Beach, CA. Immigrated to the U.S. from Denmark in 1989 when I was 25 after marrying an American. I can relate to what your write about being homesick. I would sometimes miss Denmark when I was here in CA and always missed CA when I was visiting Denmark.
I miss the song of the black birds in spring and summer, the outstanding bakeries, the beach trees in May, the lilacs in June, the long summer days and short nights. BUT… I wouldn’t be able to ride my bicycle wearing summer clothes in January in Denmark and that’s when I love SoCal the most, riding along the beach when I know it’s cold, rainy and windy back Copenhagen.
Home is where the heart is, and my heart is in CA, this is where my adult daughter is, and this is where I’ve been most of my adult life.
Maybe I’ll bump into you & Joe on a trip to central CA some day – I won’t ask for autographs and will do my best not to be starstruck. [smile].
I bought your first book back in the 1990s, but have only been a subscriber to your newsletter for about a year or so. I love reading every Willard: so much joy, inspiration, beauty, honesty, food for thought, and of course pictures of the legendary Jack!
Thank you, Susan!
So nice to hear from you. I’ve been to Copenhagen! What a beautiful city. SO lovely, I was barely there for any length of time, but the best hot dog I ever ate was on a street on a cold spring day in Copenhagen. Steamed bun, and toasted onions on top! YUM!!
I agree, they DO have some pretty fab hot dogs in Denmark.
The Scandinavian hot dog stand (pølsebod) is an institution. There´s even a vendor that sells vegetarian dogs, their stand is located ight by the Round Tower on Købmagergade in central Copenhagen.
The toasted onions (ristede løg) are a classic topping and my personal favorite.
Oh, dang, now you´ve gone and made me kinda “home”sick….
Was it a walking street? Was there a Georg Jenson on the corner . . . sooooo long ago for me. All those BMW cabs with lambswool seat covers. So cozy. We were there in cold months! I remember seeing my breath.
New beginnings for you, Joe, and Jack. Congratulations on the next journey of your life! It will be exciting for you all. God bless you as you travel west.
I was surprized but excited for you too! Trust God to lead you. Glad you will still be able to visit the Island!
Why did this make me cry a little? I know you have made the right choice … because I had to do the same thing and the blessings have been endless. After my husband passed away, I left behind a big 2-story home and then promptly moved into a smaller … 3-story townhouse. 🤪 Six years later I was moving again, This time I wised up and bought a one story cottage and I love it beyond measure. The best part is that I’m thrilled to be inefficient, increasing my steps as I go back and forth from one end of the house to the other comfortably. In multi-storied homes it’s all about efficiency; making tall piles at the bottom of the steps so you only have to go up once. (All while balancing said huge pile and risking life and limb.) So here’s to new memories and inefficiency … I just know you’ll be happy. You have the gene. Love, Mary
Yes! Thank you for the reminder!!! I have the gene!😁
You’ll never regret this decision you and Joe have made! All of your memories will go with you and keep you HAPPY forever!!! So happy for you both…….ENJOY!
I cried while reading this because this is what we are facing, too. Leaving our beautiful home of 32 years, dear friends and neighbors – my heart aches! But by the end of your post I had been uplifted – I, too, will carry my memories with me and find joy! Thanks you!❤️
Susan, you take the magic with you no matter where you go… if you had a house on the moon, it would be filled with quilts and Beatrix Potter and tea things, and we would all feel very much at home there. I know this was a hard decision, but the right one, and your home in CA will be just as perfect. Sending you lots and lots of love!
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Dear Susan—From another native Californian: Welcome Home!
(And—fair warning—Trader Joe’s is anti-Union.)
Are they good to their worker bees?💞
Not particularly. They have been giving those trying to unionize a very bad time.
I think, but am not certain, Trader Joe’s mgmt may have joined in Musk’s and Bezos’ lawsuit to have the National Labor Relations Board struck down. 😳
Well they all look so happy. Very helpful. I almost went to work at the one in VB. They get to wear cool 😎 shirts too! 🏝
When you wrote about Joe going through the art work in the outside building, and how he wasn’t “selecting” art work, but moving it around…I thought it sounded like he planned on staying in California. And here you are, making the best decision you possibly can for your future, California!! Congratulations and of course Spring and Fall are the times to visit Martha’s Vineyard. Best Wishes!!
I love this post! I’ve had feelings like yours with all my moves. But I have to remember, “Enjoy here while you’re here, because there’s no here there.” Love you Susan!
Did I write “beach trees” in my previous comment? If so, it was a Freudian slip, I meant “beech trees”.
Well Susan–I will miss you and i never met you…But i live inConnecticut..that always made me feel closer to you.
Wishing you and hubby much happiness…Change is always a good thing but it
is exhausting……….My hubby and i met at age 17 while in High School…There was Vietnam..getting married..having babies…moved a few times .But built a house all on one floor..You will be so happy(no Stairs)…I am still here ..in my beautiful house but sadly the Love Of My Life left me for Heaven.May 20 will be five years…Reading your Willards has always made me smile ,while having many cups of tea.
I bought your Geranium photo.Having it framed..Also have your cups and books.You have been an inspiration to me..You make me smile.
So–Hug Joe every day…That kind of Love is special…I know—I was lucky too!
Love You Lots,Linda Matera…
I will do that Linda. We both need it more than ever. xoxoxo
I’ve shed a few tears at this, Susan. I grew up with your books and lived Martha’s Vineyard through you. Annie Hall’s Butter Cookies were the only thing my mom would let us make when we were little — she didn’t want anymore chaos in the kitchen than was necessary! But it was a beloved tradition at Christmas to make the candy canes and cutouts. We’d always read through your books together. I lost my mom last May to Parkinson’s. Life’s changes are so hard. Wishing you the very best. I know someone special will move into your house and make new wonderful memories.
💋💋💋💋💋💋💋 Moms! Such a terrible loss. I feel her shadow near me all day long, but it really isn’t enough. I’m so sorry Emily.😘
Our lives are so full of adventure and blessings. I look forward to seeing where your’s take you! ❤️
What a heart wrenching decision, but completely understandable. You have been living in my dream town in my dream home, but I eagerly await Willards from California. My husband and I are both 76, and we’ll be facing the same decision soon, too soon. I can hardly bear thinking of it. When did our generation get old? I’m still in shock.
P.S. No stairs are so very important.
Dear Sue! What a decision you have made!!! I’m excited that you will be on the west side of the country…so many of your girlfriends live in California!!! And, Trader Joe’s! Win – Win! Remember to breathe and pace yourself. A new chapter in the making! More adventure! I can just imagine you redecorating and settling in! I’ll be watching for the reports from the road trip!! xoxo peg
Oh my goodness Susan. I don’t know why a piece of my heart broke off when I read you were selling the home. I think because you were the one who inspired me to visit Martha’s Vinyadd several times when I lived in Boston for 7 years. I saw all the whimsical things you mentioned in your books..except some bad parts where they run tourists of the road riding bikes 🤣 Anyways, I’m also the same time SO happy for you and Joe. A new chapter and what’s best for both of you 💗
Oh Susan. Isn’t life funny? Joy and heartbreak, tears and laughter, excitement and loss, all thrown together like a packet of mixed seeds in a garden. My heart breaks for you and I am also so excited for you. May life continue to bring you surprises and joy no matter where you land. Thank you for always bringing all of us so much joy. We will be along on this adventure with you, cheering you on.
WoW! Didn’t expect that! Some times hard choices have to be made as one gets older. We’ve been considering changes too, house too big, too many stairs to climb, lawns that need cutting, snow to be shoveled, so much stuff accumulated over a life time! We’re not Spring chickens either and all these things need to be considered. We wish you an easy transition, we know you can do it and look forward as you adventure into the next chapter of your lives. Hugs from NJ
Dear, dear Susan! I was pretty sure you and Joe would make the decision to go to your lovely, beautiful place in California. And of course it won’t be a forever goodbye to The Vinyard. You have all those lovely friends there. I went through such a choice last summer. Tom loves being here in Tampa close to his daughter, my beloved stepdaughter Kristin. He loves spending winter here, riding his bike and rambling all around the brick streets, in the ancient Spanish moss draped live oak tunnels. I decided to stop trying to get him to sell this place. What I’ve been doing is divesting myself of some of my lifetime of collections. Lots more will go next winter. I have absolutely no use for China and crystal for 12, including 10 serving pieces. Someone will love them.
We are flying to Maine on May 4th, and I’m excited to be going. I think he is as well, as it’s getting too hot and steamy for nice walks. I got down on the rug to wash my treasures on 2 shelves. Turtles, little turtles I’ve been given since I had a pet turtle in college. I still have the first one, which is playing a guitar. I played the guitar and belted out Joan Baez and Bob Dylan in the dorm. Took that guitar all the way to California and back in 1966. It has been suggested that life would be waaay easier for my old knees if I got rid of my little turtles from people and places I have loved!! I ask, Easier for who/whom?! They call it Clutter, but I call it Flutter. My heart flutters with love when I look or touch. It would break my heart to part with them. I have handmade baskets, handmade pottery, handmade crumb brushes and handmade boxes that used to be filled with Tom’s navigational instruments. Many other many small collections. Giving them a personal cleaning twice a season is my chance to have a Lovely Conversation with the craft person, or a dear departed friend who thought of me when she was in England last. (A little black turtle made of English coal.) I have the tiny turtles her daughter made for me all those years ago when she was 5 or 6. I miss Anne, but she’s really still here in the things she gave me, just because….She had kept all the postcards I sent her over the years. Her oldest just gave those to me yesterday.
So now you will have the best of two worlds…three if you count England! I’m excited for you and Joe. It really is an adventure.
The Lovely Tom just finished vacuuming the carpeted steps, and now he’s Resting his Eyes. Being 84, that’s mandatory. We’ll leave the townhouse nice and clean for when we return next fall.
Aren’t we lucky to be able to make such Fabulous Choices?! I cried often when we sold our old house that we’ve both rebuilt by hand, but building the Maine house was an adventure. I know you will be glad of your decision. 🙂
Mucho Love from Steamy Tampa
Debbie
We get that steam in August here. Yikes! Yes, we are lucky Debbie! Welcome home to Maine! I know you love it! xoxoxo
Wow, what a surprise! I’m sure you’ve been thinking about it for a long time, but so new to me. And you were talking about selling your home in CA… I absolutely see your reasoning, but it must be hard. I too have been in my house for about 35 years, and the thought of dealing with all this STUFF and moving terrifies me (not really, but you know). I wish you the very best in the move and future! Oh, and I had to tell you, I had the same skirt as you are wearing in the picture next to the snowman – a blast from the past for sure!
The skirt I wore on my first date with Joe!👏 I still have it. Packed up to go!
Somehow, I knew you end up back in California! Best of luck on this new adventure❤️
Wishing you all the best for this next chapter, Susan! I’m sure the difficult decision is paired equally with excitement for the future in CA! I’ll be one of the 1st to sign up for a watercolor tutorial taught by you … no pressure! Enjoy the process and journey. With care, Karen
Dear Susan, what a surprise you shared with us – and your pain and sadness came through so very clearly in every word – but those will soon be left behind as you continue to prepare for the wonderful future that awaits you. Life is a gift and you have many more days and ways to enjoy it. Be gentle with yourself as you prepare for your new adventure – the best days are ahead.
Congratulations on making a hard but correct choice. Safe travels. Joy follows you wherever you are!
So many good wishes for you. Your life will still be wonderful because you look for the wonder in life.
My dear, Sweet Susan,
I can not imagine the immeasurable weight of emotions you’ve been through to reach this choice. But here’s what I do know for certain, YOU will forever bloom where you’re planted. YOU are the bloom! 6 years ago, I had the pleasure of going to MV to celebrate my 50th bday. We only went there because I’ve been obsessed with you since I was a young bride!🤭
We saw your beautiful home and enchanted neighborhood. It was just a dream trip from start to finish. I never would have seen any of that were it not for you! My grandparents’ house was magic. I mean MAGIC. I loved being there more than anywhere else in the world. When they left, it became so obvious that their house wasn’t magic, THEY were magic! They brought and distributed with great generosity, the magic! And that is you and Joe! You two are the magic. You bring it and share it everywhere you are. I wish you the very best of everything. You have given me the very best of so much, and I am forever grateful!
❌⭕️❌⭕️,
Tawni Urrutia in Lodi Ca
Ohhhhh, Tawni. Love you.💋
Happy! Happy! Joy! Joy! I wish you joy, love and happiness in California. Wish I could get my spouse to consider downsizing. I’ll keep trying. Wish me luck. Be safe and happy Susan & Joe. We’ll miss you here in Massachusetts. ❤
It has not been easy for Joe. My heart is with him. Not easy for anyone!💝
I was wondering about that. Between the two of you are there more helpful family members in CA or MA??
I forgot to mention that in my earlier comment.
Margot
California . . . 💝
I am so glad 🙂 you will have helpers. California here you come, right back where you started from. 🎵🎵🎶
I miss my sons, and everyone else is not in Wisconsin or passed, except Arnie’s sister.
Aww Susan… Your sentimental heart may be hurting for the leaving of your sea Captain’s island home yet there will be joys awaiting you in California!
* I realize you know this*. Arroyo Grande ~ such a beautiful place to land in these “responsible” years of life! All the happiness to you! Safe journey across the country. Did you say when the plan is to make the move?
We have a moving van coming in 2 weeks. I hope we make it! We’ll send stuff and stay behind to clean up house … maybe take Jack, et all and leave around the first of June.
Dear Susan,
Alas, a door is shutting so you can open THE window! You wrote, “Overthinking is the thief of confidence.” Truer words were never said!
All practical reasons to “Go West young man (and woman)!” When we moved December 1st 2022 to one level I twirled around the center of the new home!! No snow to shovel and cheaper to cool than heat a house! I miss only one season, Autumn, from WI and NH. I had 40 years of gorgeous Autumns! 14 years of no shoveling. icy roads now and counting! I do miss my sons, but I will see them and other relatives in Autumn 🍁🍂!!! Or Christmas 🎄 in July.
I am a Summer girl 🌺born in Autumn (October). After my birthday the leaves 🍁 always reached their peak. You grew up wondering about 4 seasons and I grew up California dreaming. My two close cousins live in Northern California. Since we only had two weeks last Summer, we didn’t make it to SLO. And I wanted to meet Christie in Folsom! Lisa lives very close to her!!
Hugs to you and the boys (Joe & Jack) 🤗🤗🤗
Margot
I was twirling on my one floor in CA when we were out there . . . so open and light! Thank you Margot!💖
PS Thank ALL of you, I’m LOVING your stories!💋💋💋💋💋
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I/We are cheering you on!! I am heading north up to Virginia on the 16th, by then you wouldn’t need my attention to detail packing skills anymore…To you and the woman with the turtles, don’t give up everything you love, because we are not done living yet! A dash of pink goes wonderful with green! Like your garden!
Wow.
I wasn’t expecting that.
But good luck to you (both). Did you reconsider selling your California house, and will go back into that ? The move makes sense, for all of the reasons you stated, but still … I am a tad younger than you, but can totally understand how difficult a decision this is. Really, best wishes to you and Joe.
When you said that you weren’t putting your CA house up for sale right then and going home to MA, I thought, “One floor, Joe loves his tractor, Sue loves to garden, best choice ever, move to California.”
I had a similar talk with my sister in law yesterday, she’s 20 years younger than my husband, when we need to downsize, we can move up and rent at her place. We’re not ready yet.
Go and don’t look back, you don’t live there anymore,. (You can always visit).
PS: Take your big kitchen stove. It wants to come.
PPS: I’m not leaving my Giclee, it’s coming with me.
PPPS: I’m the one whose father would save me his “lady dimes” and I found one when I was going through in his dresser drawer after he died at 97 and I said, “Hi Dad, love you.”
Awwwww ~ just love this … ❌⭕️❌⭕️
I was shocked and comforted by your Willard. We are your ages living in a similar sea captain’s home in midcoast Maine. We love every day in this old house. But reality pops up now and then…. we must make a plan. I hope that we can be as decisive and positive as you and Joe are.
Good luck with it all! ❤️❤️❤️
This might just be the most important thing you’ve written yet, Susan. Thank you for sharing your soul & the depths of this decision you’ve so carefully made. Age does indeed sneak up on you & so while we all think we’re going to be ready, I think we brush up against older age often because of an injury or illness, perhaps before we’ve made a plan. So bravo to you for having the courage to make such a monumental decision which is for your benefit, but in the broad scope, helps countless others too. May it all go very smoothly. Here’s to the joy that is ahead!! All the best, Barbara
As a native Californian, I can say that you will for sure be SO happy that you made this move. I, too, lived in New England (Vermont and Maine)—-for 15 years. Us and our 3 kids moved to Northern California in 1988. We bought along 2 cats—but left behind a farm and found homes for pony, horse, chickens and our wonderful dog. It has proved to be the absolutely best decision we have made. California is a wonderful place to grow old togethet.
Might be strange to say . . .I am proud of you both! Nothing like going confidently in the direction of your dreams because you know it is right. I know you will be blessed for following your heart. The good stuff awaits! As always, you are inspiring and a joy!
Dear Susan & Joe,
I feel happy and sad at the same time because you have written in a way that I have felt part of your home and life. With that being said, it almost feels like I am moving too. That my dream home on an island will be soon belong to new owners. It must have been a difficult decision because either one is a win win situation. You will take all the memories with you and knowing you can return anytime is comforting. Kiss the house when you leave and hold the front corner of the house and thank the house for providing you with a safe haven and wonderful memories for all of those years. All the best to you and Joe as you begin a new adventure!
Oh yes, so many kisses. Even some tears. xoxo Thank you Patty!
I did wonder about you not selling your lovely house in California – wondered if you might sell up on MV, but never really thought you would. Terribly exciting but sad too. You’ve had an amazing life there and will take all those fabulous memories with you and start afresh in your other house!
Wishing you much love, luck and laughter together, with Jaack and all the lovelies that are going with you.
Love from
Karen x x x
U.K. 🇬🇧
LOL, I never thought we would either! But seems right . . . thank you Karen!💝
Susan and Joe,
I feel that the hardest part in this is the decision you’ve made. Once that is behind you, you can look forward to all the things of joy that await you in CA. Yes, you will miss all the beauty of New England, but not the throes of winter and bleak days of gray skies. As you stated, visits can happen during fall and spring when weather is more ideal. Go with God and bloom where you’re planted…
Love,
Mame
Dear Susan, It was so emotional reading your blog about the agony of deciding whether to stay in your beloved historic MV home, or return to your California property since we are also trying to decide about moving & downsizing, too. But, after reading the logic behind your decision, the California property seems the perfect place to age safely & be financially secure. Your California property is so beautiful with acres of garden to enjoy year round! Plus, you’re close to the beach & so many wonderful places to visit like Solvang, Cambria, Carmel, Napa & Sonoma when you want a quick getaway!. I miss California, too, but we don’t have a lovely property to move back to & it’s way too expensive for us now. I look forward to reading about your move & new life as a “California Girl!”
Oh my. Such a change. We are at the age that we have just decided to look at those same concerns and make some changes for ourselves. Change is good for us. Keeps us fresh and probably will keep us from falling down the stairs. Best of luck on this new adventure. Rose
Oh WOW! Did not see this one coming.
I’m going to miss your stories about Martha’s Vineyard but I completely understand your reasoning. You and Joe have been blessed during all your wonderful years on the island. I’m looking forward to hearing about your escapades in California. Best of luck!
Oh Susan, how your words hit home with me this afternoon. I have been contemplating selling my own dear home these last few weeks but dithering at the thought of so much upheaval. Then last night my next door neighbor of over 20 years told me they were selling their home. Now you and Joe! I think the universe is trying to give me a not so gentle shove in the direction I know in my heart I should be going but don’t quite want to. Thank you for giving me the courage to Just Do It!
I completely understand where you’re coming from. A year ago my husband and I sold our house of 30 years in Sherman Oaks CA and moved to Maryland (where I’m from) to help my 94 year old mother out now. It was so difficult and emotional to leave the place we loved, our jobs and our friends. I thought about all the little senior dogs we lived with who came to us broken and scared who we loved back to health and lived the rest of their lives in our happy home.
We got rid of a lot of stuff (a good time to purge and downsize) and looked at it as an adventure. We had a blast driving across the country with our 3 dogs. They had fun too.
We’re in our early 60s and are thinking about our next steps as well. Where should we live, how’s the healthcare etc. All the fun things to think about as we age. We miss California but we are having fun being tourist in our own town now and discovering new places and people.
Excited to follow you on your next journey and hope you write another book about it!
Oh Susan
We have never met but I have enjoyed sharing your life since the pandemic began. Shocked is the first word that entered my mind when I read about your move to CA. I am a former CA girl (Orange County age 5-22) (San Diego County Age 23-60)…THEN we migrated EAST because I fell in love with everything…like the SEASONS, wide open spaces, cute walkable neighborhoods with large front porches, all the history, all the culture….people who embrace reading and writing and gardening and more. I am so happy I have had an opportunity to live in this new environment, although I do enjoy trips back to CA from time to time this place has become home. I feel the angst in your heart. What a magical place you have had the privilege of calling home for so long. I will miss sharing the passing of the seasons through your newsletters. But thinking of your future needs must take priority. Ironically, we moved from a 1400sq foot square little Spanish home (all on one floor with an acre of land) to a 2400 square foot home with stairs, a great front porch and upstairs bedrooms in our retirement! Duh! We told each other we hoped to get 10 years in this new home (Saratoga Springs, NY) we are going on year #15. So far we tell ourselves the stairs are keeping us young! They are not as steep as yours and our home has a small yard and is easy maintenance. As for the snow, I love it…our little driveway is easy and so we continue to tell ourselves it’s not time yet…but I know someday we’ll have a decision to make. And I will remember all I have learned from you. I am excited to follow your journey BUT I am so going to miss your home on the island. I will read through your archives for every month so I can live vicariously through all of those wonderful years. Safe travels.
Happy trails,
Ellen Downing
You’re figuring it out. That took me YEARS. And even now. . . And, yes, all the things you say about the east coast are true. The little porches! The seasons! Woods! There are at LEAST 5 giant nurseries on this little island that has a 4-month growing season, all of them HUGE, a day walk, just heaven… the ones near us in California are tiny, and I just found out from one of my friends I have to go to Home Depot! Haven’t been, but I’m sure I will! I have an English garden to complete! Or at least work on!💝
Wowee. That’s some big news, girlfriend Susan Branch. What you wrote all makes practical sense. When you weren’t able to sign real estate papers to list the house for sale in SLO-CAL, I was silently congratulating you for listening to your heart and gut that said “not yet.” Your growing up years in southern California are so similar to mine, and I moved to the Pacific Northwest 5 years ago, leaving my home state behind. After 60 years of being a California girl, I have not adjusted to life in another state and climate and much too far from Mother Ocean. I am looking to move home to California, and in fact have reservations in SLO-CAL in May to explore the area as a possibility. Are you concerned about health care in the area? In my research, I have heard that there can be a very long wait to see a doctor. One person said be prepared to go to Los Angeles or San Francisco for anything major. Just a consideration to check into. Other than that, good for you for taking action that makes sense for you in this season of life. May Peace and Guidance be with you and Joe in your new adventure.
Yes, healthcare is probably my biggest issue, but we will see. I have such wonderful doctors here on the island, and we’ll return to see them! Even here, if you are really sick you have to go to Boston for treatment, at mercy of ferries (although they do give you a special pass for medical reasons) … or sometimes, if it’s an emergency, you are air lifted by helicopter (horrors!) … in CA we’re halfway between two major hospitals, UCLA and Stanford ~ where my friends have gone when it’s something big. So more or less, it’s the same thing. . . we’ll see! Good luck!!! 😘
Well….WOW….I wasn’t gifted with the wonderful words gene like you have…so WOW pretty much says it, from me! Good for you and Joe! All makes perfect sense…we too are realizing that being 80 & 87 means some planning & changes need to be made. Do we really need 300 Camellia plants, & a sewing room full of fabric? You’re in my heart, prayers too for a good move & happy settling in your beautiful new/old neighborhood. And, yes, our moon is still setting beautifully here in CA too! Welcome back! XO, Joan
You MIGHT need those things!😅xoxoxoxo
I was thinking yes I do!!! 🌸🌸🌸👗🧵🪡
Oh Susan, what a decision! I wish you joy in the now and in the memories but most of all, in the future. You give so much to your heart sisters. Thank you beyond all measure and happiness and joy beyond all measure and comprehension ♥️❤️♥️❤️❣️
Susan, I had to read this twice! And, even read a lot of it aloud to my husband because we are a few years retired and are on different pages in terms of what we want for retirement years. I am so proud of both of you. I have read a ton of articles, books, blogs, etc. regarding decisions about retirement and what is recommended, and you and Joe are following all that wisdom. I think the two of you are going to be able to make this happen and will make another chapter in your lives that is full of love and joy. I wish you the best.
Dear Susan and Joe,
How lucky are you to move to your home in California. Retirement is always a tiny bit scary but mostly exciting!!!
My husband and I moved to our retirement home on the lake where we met at the wonderful age of 15. We moved from our home where our residence had to be for my husband’s job as a firefighter. We had lived in our home for 40 years and raised our children there. So I know how hard it is to leave a place where your friends and memories are. With that being said, your memories will be in your heart ❤️ forever.
We don’t regret it one bit. Our retirement home is on the lake we built our dreams on and lets us make more memories. The BEST part it’s all on one floor Too. No more climbing up to bed. lol
So enjoy the downsizing (it really is cleansing) and look forward to your new adventure and memories.
Good luck to you both.
Best wishes,
Sandy Yarmac
Change can be hard. But, you and Joe are embracing this move with a positive attitude. How can it not be the perfect decision. Congratulations! Cannot wait to see how/if this affects your art.
Wishing you a smooth transition back to California, the poppies and artichokes are waiting for you! Just another chapter in your fairy tale story, can’t wait to read about it. Welcome back!
Oh Susan, my heart goes out to you! What a decision you had to make! But I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. After all, my husband and I met on a blind date, and here we are 50 years later!
Your trip to California showed you that you couldn’t sell the house. Of course! Because you and Joe were meant to spend your sunset years there, surrounded by beauty and old, dear friends.
Wishing you all the best,
Love, Susan Day
Oh Susan! I wasn’t expecting that news! I guess at our age (I’m 76) these types of decisions have to be made but they are never easy. I was wondering why you were planning to sell your lovely California house with the picket fence garden that you love so much too. I think I may have even suggested in a previous post that you may want to retire there some day! We are all going to miss your house, the island, your friends, the walk to the beach along with you and Joe, but there will be plenty to do in California. You will have all your precious things there with you and the weather will be better! We are pulling for you both on this next step of your journey. Sometimes life can be bittersweet but wherever you and Joe are it’s going to be fabulous! Plus youll be close to Kellie’s farm with all her wonderful goings on. I know you will love it, so keep your chin up, the next few months will be harder leaving all you love about the Vineyard, but things will be rosy in California. I just know it!
Pure positivity, love every word!👏
All I could say at the end if this Willard was…
WOW❗I didn’t see that coming, but as surprised as I am, as long as we still have you!! I understand totally and I wish you & Joe a smooth move to your lovely home in CA. Thinking back on my first awareness of you-my Autumn book so long ago and having read most everything since. I simply love you, Susan, and all you do❣
Thank you Shirley … I am SO lucky to have you all helping me through life. It’s been SUCH a gift!❌⭕️
Wow! It is amazing how life sneaks up on us and suddenly it seems as though everything changes. Your life on Martha’s Vineyard is forever in your memories and ours. I am looking forward to your new beginning. Anxious to hear new stories and experiences, to see great pictures, and to enjoy a different view. Take care
So very moving (pun not intended). And so very wise
This made me cry! I am going through a similar transition (still don’t know for sure where I will end up, but it’s time to leave the mountains)… It is a hard thing to be happy and sad at the same time but it seems to me like you’ve made the best decision. I am a little upset with myself for being stuck in the over-thinking stage but I WILL get through this. This post was very timely for me, thank you! Wishing you the best luck & a great adventure xoxo
Overthinking, whoa. I totally understand!💖 Good luck! Wishing you all good choices!
Oh! Ohhhhhhh! I know you feel sooooo many emotions right now. You’ll be OK. I have to ask; What about Holly Oak? Did you buy it back?
It’s just not for sale at this time . . . I’ve tried!
oooooh, wouldn’t that be WONDERFUL!!!!!
I was going to try to buy it and put all my best stuff in it and turn it into a baby Hill Top! But the lady living there doesn’t seem to want to go!!! Understandable!💝
No bi-coastal, no snow birding, just no! One house for one woman is enough. Too much cleaning 🧹!
Very happy for you… many new adventures await. When is moving day? It will be wonderful for both of you. 🙂
In about a month if all goes well!
Oh my goodness, Susan! What a wise pair you two are…such a difficult decision so well considered. Thank you so much for sharing your process with us! I was hoping I could win the lottery so I could buy the California house, but this news is like winning a different kind of prize! We get to keep you in California! I know one of these days, at one of your events, I am going to get to give you a hug! I just know it! You didn’t say which 2 sets of china are coming and I sure hope the Rose Chintz made it into the boxes…it makes me happy every time I open my cupboard and I use mine every day. Jack In The Van is a book in the making! or his own insta account: #jackinthevan 😂 So much adventure to come. Thank you for sharing, always, always, always! XOXO
Oddly, the Rose Chintz will stay here with the house on the island . . . I have loved it, used it every day, but I took the China that will look best in a double-wide in California. I’ll show you when we get there.💋
Wait a minute…you mean the California house sold…I thought you were on pause with it? When you say ‘It’s just not for sale at this time’ do you mean you yourself still own it or the new owners don’t want to sell it back…? Fingers crossed you’re coming back to that charmer with THAT GARDEN!!
We’re moving back to our California House. The house that isn’t for sale is Holly Oak, here on the island!💝
Awww, dear Susan and Joe…I think many of us knew you were going to decide to make your place in CA your permanent “golden years” home when you couldn’t bear to put it on the market a few months ago. You hashed out all the pros and cons of should-we-stay-or-should we-go and ultimately listened to your heart when you made your decision. You’ve been caretakers of that beautiful home in Martha’s Vineyard for decades and now it’s time to let it go and pass it on to folks who will no doubt love it and care for it as much as you have. You’ll be leaving it better than you found it, just as every other owner before you, and that’s what matters. Love and prayers as you begin the process of sorting and selling and moving. ❤️
So many of us are in the same boat as you! Too bad all of us are not sailing away to England together! I have been trying my very best to downsize and part with things. I try to pass on heirlooms to our extended family, some are interested and some are not. We have just acquired bunkbeds for our Grandchildren and the Jenny Lind crib/toddler bed must go, it was our daughter’s when she was a baby, both the Grands have used it and the decision must be made to part with it. I am sad but hope whoever it ends up with will cherish it as I have. I can commiserate with you, it is a very emotional time, but so much to look forward for the future! Wishing you and Joe all the best and I look forward to reading all about your “golden years” in The Golden State! Hugs! Candice in Ohio
So! Does this mean you are keeping the house you were first trying to sell just recently? Or is this a totally different house? Whatever it is, we Californians (I’m 5th generation gold rush, stage coach!) will love having you back. ❤️❤️❤️
I am as giddy as you are about the flowers this spring. It’s so nice to finally see SOMETHING I plant spring up in all its glory. Is it you who told us about wonderful “moonlight gardens?” I have one half-decently started now thanks to you. And it includes a white iris named after my aunt!
Blessing to you in your new adventures.
Best of luck to you and Joe! So glad I got to meet you once in CT at a book signing. You are very fortunate to be able to go back home. I will miss your beautiful house on the Vineyard but I’m sure there will be plenty to come from CA. Two questions: when are you leaving and when is your estate sale? I’m sure all of us in New England would love to come! Blessings to you ❤️
I’ll announce the date when I know it . . . I’m leaving lots of beauty here! Would love you to have it!🌸
Feeling your heavy heart Susan. Also, feel the excitement of a new chapter Susan. With you on this,
kathy
Wow! I would imagine it is a relief to have a plan. That is half the battle isn’t it? Praying your beautiful home sells quickly and you are soon settled in California. I also have to tell you how much I enjoy the photos of Jack. He looks like our little Abby who passed last summer. (Except she didn’t have a mustache but she did have a cute little black dot on one side).
Susan! What a coincidence… several things… first, I just finished reading for the second time Isle of Dreams and Fairy Tale Girl because it had been a few years and I just needed a reminder of real love and possibilities and believing in your dreams even when they seem so far away. I also love the vineyard and we visit each year. I have driven by Spring street seeing the hearts in the window and it always makes me feel as if I’m witnessing a bit of magic, sort of like Gladys Tabor magic (I’ve striven past Stillmeadow with the same warm feeling) I have been painting in oils most of my life, and just a few days ago decided I’d like to try something new… watercolors! and MAN of man, why did I wait so long??? It’s so fun, so stress relieving… and far less mess and tedious than the oils. Faster too… which appeases my impatience. I am loving it! And I equate that with your inspiration as well. Wishing you the very best in your move… being familiar with the Vineyard vibe I wondered often if you’d eventually have to make this decision because it’s a big house, and it’s value has tripled at the very least in all those years… probably more. And Vineyard living isn’t easy as people age, for the reasons you mentioned. Wishing you and Joe the very very best on your new adventure, I’ll be following along via blog and Willard! I’m glad California is no longer “dangerous” for you, LOL. Cheers to many more years – with love from a huge fan – Karen Milano, Connecticut
LOL, how WELL you know me.😆🤣 Have fun with those watercolors!!!🌸 xoxo
Pardon those typos! Yikes! at 59, I need to get used to having reading glasses handy. Ugh! 🙂 Safe journeys –