Rabbit Rabbit, almost May, welcome to this episode of “Real Life.” Don’t let the title scare you!! Let the MUSICA do it!😢
The question posed to me over and over again this April: Responsibility. What is it and why do we have it? I think if you 
have children, the minute they are born, responsibility kicks in for a lifetime. I don’t know, because I don’t have children and so that ultimate responsibility was never mine. Looking back, I think for the most part I got to pick and choose my responsibilities😸, they didn’t land on me like care of children must inevitably do. Children help you notice the years are going by. I forgot to do that. But sooner or 
later, life tells you you better take responsibility or you’ll be in trouble. Warning lights show up whether we like it or not. That’s when life decisions can no longer be ignored, you find yourself adding up numbers, weighing pros and cons, living in denial as much as possible, suddenly seeing your surroundings in a way you never noticed before, writing a will🤪, and PLANNING for something you have no idea what it is, or when, or how, or even why, because 
you’re secretly only 23, and very busy, and you don’t DO responsibility. But for some unfathomable reason, to fit into rules not of my making, we’re being forced into it. I would prefer to do TODAY, exactly what I did YESTERDAY, forever. Operative word is forever. Where is my dad when I need him, he had all the answers! So ’round and ’round we go, listing pros and cons, meditating on it, clarifying options, and getting a handle on consequences (guessing, because who knows), debating with myself, debating with Joe, seeing truth but fighting the impulse to lie to myself (I know, that always works🙄), crying while out on our walk ~ and then, back home, my eyes fall on the little stove on top of my big stove, something with zero PRACTICAL value besides cuteness, and I think well, if we have to go, I’m taking that.🤜🤛
Still hard to say … But in a nutshell, Joe and I have decided for our old age, it’s best we 
move to our house in California and sell our house on the island. So many reasons, but number one is the one most of us have to wrestle with, our financial situation … this big old house requires constant maintenance, and if we sell it we will have enough money to ensure our security in the future. All the back and forth, all the worry comes down to that. Now that we’ve finally accepted it, we’re trying to take it one day at a time. We’re in good health, and once it’s all done, if we live through it, we’ll see where we are and what our future holds. I’m sad, but excited too. Change like this brings both losses and gains. Living in this big old house has been the BEST thirty-five years! A dream come true, a miracle. And when we go? We take our memories and go to MORE Beauty!!! Don’t be sad for us, it’s life, the beautiful, wonderful, mystery of right thing at right time. I guess we always knew this day would come. We’ve decided to love each other through it.💞 I’m drinking tea from my Blessed cup this morning.💖
I think back on the years I’ve been writing Willards (LOOK on the right of this page, scroll down to ARCHIVES!) … put all that writing together and it’s a diary! The longest memoir in the history of womankind! You’ve been with me through it all, and often going through just exactly the same thing at the same time! And now, this. I know we aren’t alone. You know I’ve been homesick all my 
life … when I’m in California, I want to be on the Island… when I’m on the Island, I miss California. So actually, nothing changes, the homesickness continues.💝 As my mom would say, “so spoiled.” It’s all those fairy tale books I read, not my fault.
Just like everyone else, we didn’t know how to do this. And just like everyone else, we’ve had to make it up, CREATE it. We needed all the help we could get, so I Googled, “Biggest mistakes made when retiring” (in 
so many words, even if you’re NOT retiring!). “Get ready,” they all said, “you will be old someday, get yourself organized.” Heard it for years, didn’t do it. But hearing it so often, you have to (⬅️😱) believe it. We had to figure out what is going to be best for us in the long run. There are helpful studies online that result from questioning people who’ve been through it. Safety 
was big. Which means, no narrow, steep, ship-like stairs like these built in 1849 by a whaling captain. One-floor living is a requirement. Climate is also important, tying in to safety: Snow is heavy, ice is slippery, don’t get near it. Healthcare and senior services: You should not have to get on a ferry to get that because what happens if the ferries don’t run? Money: cut expenses so you don’t accidentally run out. This was the big one (and the tipping point) for us: no giant old “money-pit” houses (as our accountant referred to our house) that require constant care, where heating costs as much as a house payment, and chores require getting on ladders. And the number one biggest mistake people make, they say, is waiting too long. Grrrr.😲
“So far life had just happened to me. I had to figure out a way to happen to it.” 💖 me
I wrote those words in my memoir “Martha’s Vineyard Isle of Dreams.” I have never liked it when life happened to me, I have always wanted to feel as if I’m making a choice, and if it’s wrong, then I only have me to blame. And although our financial 
situation limits your average zillionaire’s full-range of choices, I can still choose some things. For instance, I can choose how I’m going to look at this. I could either up my anxiety medicine, or choose joy. I choose joy. I choose the Pollyanna Glad Game that’s gotten me through life since I was 8 years old. I choose to find the good, go forward positively and follow my dreams, we are NOT going to be destitute. And I’m not done yet, but that doesn’t matter, they say, you must prepare yourself. So I walk around with all this in my head, and there, all spread out on the kitchen table where Joe has left it for me, is the newspaper.
And look what it says! The unstoppables! All in their 80s and 90s, lucky to have good health, and they still work because they love it. I imagine they are all have lots of help around them, they probably have children and grandchildren, money is likely not a problem ~ and definitely they don’t have to climb whaling-captain 
ship-stairs to get to their bedrooms, but look at them! Totally inspiring. They may have had to change lifestyle a bit, but that didn’t mean everything was OVER. It didn’t stop them. And I don’t think it’s because of their ambition as this article says, I think it’s LOVE. Love of life, love of what they do, love of the people they’ve come to relate to and care for through their work. Do people ever tire of spreading love? I don’t think so. Nothing is EVER perfect, but these people, and so many like them, happen to life and don’t let life happen to them until they absolutely MUST. I want to be just like them when I grow up!💖
Yes, it’s hard; overthinking is the thief of confidence ~ but in my studio I found these cards ~ keepers, all together on a shelf. I put them on the fridge to share with Joe. The first one was painted by Kate Taylor, sister of James, a WONDERFUL singer and artist and person, and our friend. Her card says it all.’Course we can!💝
And this postcard about sharing experiences with your bestie…
And this card, so perfect for us, given to me by Joe for our anniversary . . .
And his sweetest words that brings us right back to
You Me, We Can Do This.
Reminding us our whole life has been an adventure, why not now?
There are two ways to look at it. As either our greatest loss ever, and or as another fantastic gift of life adventure. I 
question it constantly, cry sometimes, but then I read the birthday card Mother Seraphima and the sisters sent me that says, “Life isn’t about what you hold in your hands. It’s about what you hold in your heart.” And my heart keeps hold of it all. So, I think, year-’round gardening can NOT be a bad thing. Roses! The sale of Spring Street will enable us to pay off our debts. I hate debt. It makes me feel like I weigh 300 pounds. I will LOVE living near Kellee, Sheri, and Judy again, I feel empowered in our meetings so filled with inspiration. We do better when we’re together. I will love waking up to the gurgling 
water fountain outside our bedroom window, and looking out my kitchen window, past the bird feeders in the mimosa tree, at the long green farmland ~ all that glorious nature. I will love Trader Joe’s. I will love living a simpler life, will love wine with Diana next to the water, love painting at the same art table where I wrote my Autumn Book, with a view of our picket fence garden, will love a large garden project. But the things I will miss are uncountable, the history, the years, but number one, I can barely write this, are our wonderful friends. But we know we’re coming back, for as long as we are able … we’re just not coming in summer,
when the humidity melts me into a puddle. And not in the long months of winter, which, despite its many charms, can trap us inside like a perpetual pandemic. We’ll come in the spring to see the weeping cherry trees in bloom, the magnolias, and the dogwoods, for the tulips and daffodils ~ and in the fall, for the smell of autumn, for the leaves flying in the wind, for the colors, and the sweaters. And I imagine it will be more magical than EVER. All part of the adventure. All part of the gratitude, the pure gift I’ve been given in this life. I refuse to be sad, when happy is so easy. I have always loved the flow of life, and that hasn’t changed. I will say the thing I say every day, thank you God.💖
So we are packing up to move! And allowing ourselves to be excited! Because it’s exciting! I walk by the dining table where I am gathering things to take, and hear tiny, squeaky, excited mousie voices all talking at once, “why are we here, what are we doing, where are we going . . .?” The “children” are excited … Petey too! He’ll be in the old Fine Romance Van (ie garden truck), along with us, and Jack, when we drive them across country to their new home. Luckily everyone is up for the adventure! And we’ll bring you along! I’ll have to Instagram the trip! I think Jack will love being the center of attention 24-7. And I will love having him with us.😻
Downsizing! We’ll have less than half the square footage in California! Which I will love. I already feel liberated! I’m taking all our very favorite things and just LEAVING the rest of it, walking away, for an estate sale. From six sets of dishes, I narrowed it down to two! Proud of me? And everything is going to go with green. Because guess what? I get to REDECORATE! There is good in everything. You’ll see! I can’t wait to show you! Don’t cry for me Argentina. I am going to eight long green acres in the quiet sunshine where gardenias and artichokes grow.
So upward and onward: Life goes on.💝 This will cheer you up! MAS MUSICA! (The kind of MUSICA my house has always loved.💞 I tried to bypass it, but they seem determined to throw commercials in, hit “skip!” It’s worth it!!💝) I’ve always loved dolls, my mom did, and so do I. But she never let herself collect them, and me either because I just can’t bring myself to have a room full of dolls, I love them too much, they would overwhelm me (Joe would kill me), I have no doubt! I go to doll stores, alone, whenever I see one, very dangerous. Even bought one for my mom. But, I’m just too boringly practical. Almost always.
So the other day, on our way to our walk, there were signs along the road pointing to an estate sale … it was a beautiful, sunny blue-sky day so we decided to go. Because when you’re moving and trying to downsize, the first thing you think of is “Let’s go get more stuff!” (And I call myself practical🙄) But LOOK at her. ⬇️ I can’t help it, I BELIEVE her to be beautiful!💝 Wm. Morris would HAVE to approve . . .😊
She’s tiny. She has a hand-painted face, and hand-painted shoes and socks. Her underclothes were clean, but her dress was very dirty and I did my best to clean it, soaked it with lukewarm water and a drop of bleach . . .
One of the sleeves had come apart so I sewed it back together.
She read some of my books while she waited for her dress to air dry. I found her chair at the estate sale, too! And I know exactly where she will go in the house in California! She will be driven in the van with me and Joe and Jack and Petey.💝 My other dolls.
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And here she is … I had to show you her dancing legs . . .
What else? So much ~ Kellee is getting new things into the Studio every day. I can’t keep up!
All my paint boxes have to be packed up and I have a jillion of them. I don’t know why. I keep thinking there might be a color out there I haven’t seen yet. Taking no chances. And they DO make better colors all the time . . . Look at these I just got:
Aren’t they gorgeous? In cork! I’ve never seen that before. The colors are so rich and vibrant and they flow beautifully from brush to paper! I’ve already started using them . . .
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Even the BROWN is gorgeous! I got them for you too! I also found ⬇️ the sweetest little pad of textured 100% cotton watercolor paper with a vegan leather cover.💖
I’ve always wanted to offer a little set of wonderful watercolors ~ just hadn’t found the perfect ones yet. I still haven’t been able to get brushes, sorry … but my two favorite paintbrushes 
are Windsor Newton #1 and #4 ~ you can find them at Blick … everyone should give it a try! Look what happened to me! Total accident, but fun for a lifetime! Don’t think you have to be perfect, there is no such thing. Original, no matter WHAT, is best. 💖 Do it your way! And there are so many wonderful teachers out there! Sign up for something! Think of all the nice people you’ll meet! Watercolors are like music, some very ethereal and light, some very dark and opaque, shivering high notes and intense low notes, lighthearted joy and depths of heartbreak, spring and fall, the fast and the slow, some spreads forever, some is short and stops abruptly… do it to your own song and you’ll be doing it right.🧡 Maybe, just maybe, when we get to California, I will learn how to video myself and try to give an art lesson! That would be interesting. I barely know how I do it myself! 💖
My collection of heroes is heading west too . . . I’ve been collecting these die-cut hero-cards to inspire me in my studio since George Washington arrived as a wedding invitation way back in the 80s. Slowly over the years, in bookstores and other assorted places, I found the others, from Mark Twain, to Jane Austen, and all the others. Everyone asks me about them … And Kellee found them for our webstore!
“Susan’s Picks” this week are all about Mother’s Day . . . including this greeting card I made for all the nurturer’s in your life. We also have the guided books I made for moms and grandmas to tell their stories and record their memories. Every day is Mother’s Day in so many of our hearts.💝 Speaking of which, for the Mom’s in your life:
Something new! We have a Girlfriend who makes these wonderful gold filled necklaces for us, perfect alone or for layering ~ so dainty, this one we call Counting my Blessings . . .
I am a heart girl so when I saw this one, I had to have it, and needed them for you too! So here we go! You can see the gold heart necklace HERE. (The little flower necklace you see with it is coming soon!) I hope you love it! They all come on these little cards and in a clear envelope and look really good together!
I’ve had a chain like this for a long time and love how the light picks up the little extra detail of the beads … so when I saw these I was thrilled I could offer them to you. They come in either gold OR silver ~ I wear it on its own, or add a pendant ~ it’s like a jewelry-box staple. You can see it on Kellee HERE.
Lots of new cards … these have simple summer drink recipes, reminding us to celebrate EVERY wonderful moment.☀️
And these wonderful Alphabet Stitch Kits finally came back in ~ with everything you need, including instructions, needle, and embroidery floss. Make something you can pass down to your family. This one is mine, but that space there at the bottom is for you to embroider your own name and the date…💝
But honestly, despite packing and worrying, and now instead of worrying, meditating and remembering, despite all that, I look outside and see this and go get my phone!!! Who wouldn’t!?
forsythia, magnolia trees, and garden mulch . . . part of the flash dance of spring . . .🌸 Yes we’re going, but the garden says, Hey, don’t forget me . . . and we never will.🪴🪴🪴
Went out to dinner with friends and this was the view on the other side of the window . . .👀
Driving home under a full moon . . . I’ve had forty-two years of Martha’s Vineyard full moons.😱 At LEAST 504 of them, not counting the Blue Moons! Brought here, I don’t know how . . . How lucky can you get!!!? And I hear there are full moons in California too!💃🏼
Our morning walk has been a pure gift … red bucket and flip flops on the beach this beautiful morning and no one else around! Inspires Morning Science!
And the sunsets . . . 
and new blooms . . . forty-two years of the surprise of Spring . . . I have loved this house to its very soul, and it has loved me back to mine. A part of me is embedded here forever and I could not be happier about it. The world turns, spring passes, summer comes, all is as it should be.💝
Here we go! Off to the next adventure! Good bye April . . .💝
Hello May 🌸
Plant up a storm Girlfriends, all the flowers of all the tomorrows are in the seeds of today!🪴 All Love, all joy, all hope, all truth, all courage, to all of you, all the time.💞
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I knew from the very beginning of your post that you were about to announce something big, something really really big! I should’ve seen it coming but all the signs went right over my head which is good. I wasn’t ready for the news but I totally agree it’s the right thing to do. Waiting too long isn’t good and a ferry ride in a medical emergency is even worse. Sometimes hard things are for the good and this is one of them. Congratulations for making that decision now before a disaster. You give me courage as we need to do the same move. We’ve been putting it off for silly reasons because it’s always going to be hard to down size. I feel inspired to find the right condo this Summer. Thank you for your bravery! I’ll fight the idea less and look forward to the adventure.
Barbara Kuzdzal
Oh my gosh, Susan!!! Congratulations on making a very wise, if bittersweet decision!!! I completely understand making practical decisions. And, yes, it’s so important to think ahead and plan, even though we do all just think of ourselves as still 30-something!!! I mean that’s how I feel in my head & my heart!!!
And, here’s a thought: When exactly does “positive thinking” become “being in denial” when it comes to our physical bodies? 😆
Anyway, I am so glad that you & Joe will be out here on the West Coast, with all of us West Coast girlfriends!!! Maybe we will even get to meet sometime!!! I sure hope so!!! And there are so many new places for you to drive to & explore because you are closer: The Oregon Coast!!! (July, August, Sept) Lake Tahoe (October…shhhh! Best kept secret! Beautiful, gorgeous colors!!! Off-season rates at many lodgings. No crowds!!!) Mendocino (Charming & a great place to go when you get homesick for MV)The Grand Canyon!!! & Sedona, AZ. Oh, and Yosemite, too!!!
It is wonderful that you will be closer to your family, too!!! So much to look forward to, dear Susan. I am so excited and so happy for you & Joe. The beginning of a whole new chapter in your lives!!! Can’t wait to say “Welcome Back to Cote Gauche!!!”
Sending love & hugs to you, Joe & Jack!
Barbara
Maybe we need a picnic!💝
YES, just like at Stourhead!!
A picnic for all to gather and chat.
Cheers
Jan from Northern CA
Yes!!! 🙂Wouldn’t that be fun!!! Let’s do it!!! Happy to help…I’m good at planning & organizing. 🥖🧀🍷🍇🍓🍒🌞💕
Yes!!! A housewarming picnic! A celebration of all things wonderful in this latest new adventure of yours & Joe’s! We can fill our picnic baskets at Trader Joe’s, and I’ve heard there is a wonderful bakery in Arroyo Grande with the most delicious pastries! And I’ll bring the Almond Roca ~ tradition! 💗💗💗
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Susan,
The comments on this post have been so wonderful, I’ve been brought to tears! BUT this idea of a California (and anyone else who would like to attend) girlfriend picnic is genius. I hope that would be in future for us. I was never able to attend the England get together’s. It would be a “bucket list” for me!! I have loved and followed you for years and years!
Mmmm Christie! I just ate a bunch last week. 😯
Be it ever so humble, there’s no place like home.
Close your eyes and you can see the world.
We’re in our 70s (me 73) and my husband is soon to be 80 years old. (May 15th).
We knew that this time would be upon us back in 2016 so we purchased a single-story home in a nice close-knit neighborhood. It’s a good thing we did, as I’m now in a wheelchair, but still do all the things except stand up (back injury). We don’t feel one bit old until we look in the mirror. Funny how that is . . .
Wishing you all the very best life has to give. Keep on traveling as time permits, and enjoy it all.
Sending hugs & love! 🤗🥰 Lacy, Mike and Hamish💞🐾
So smart to do it sooner rather than later!!! Yes, stay away from the mirror!!!😘😘😘
Susan and Joe, I must admit I am astounded that you are leaving your wonderful old house on Spring Street, the Vineyard, the change of seasons, and the Girlfriends. But, I totally understand….I even worried about you traipsing down those steep steps in the mornings. We had some just like them when we lived near Boston….always held onto the hand rail. And, the same with the ice and snow…..I finally asked Don to move because I needed the warmer south, where there was no shoveling to get out in the mornings to go to school. We have moved all over the US, and I was always ready for the next adventure. I can only imagine what your mind and heart are going through after 42 years. Do we? Don’t we? What is best for our “older” age(notice, I didn’t write o-l-d)? And, no debts…..that is a huge relief! Having a garden of flowers and vegetables year round. You must have known somewhere deep down when you decided to plant artichokes before you left California. May this move get easier as time goes on. And, I am SO thankful that you aren’t retiring….I would miss you so very much, your Willards, books, artwork, all the things you make for us, and ESPECIALLY your happy gene! Love, Rachel
What a love you’ve been to me Rachel! I can’t thank you enough!❌⭕️
Oh, for so many reasons, this post has spoken to me, Susan. Thank you for sharing your journey with us…. You and Joe (and Jack) are off on a new adventure! A new life chapter! A new book, perhaps???🥰
Willard’s seem to come just when I need them. Did anyone else gasp aloud when you read Susan was moving to California. It must be so hard to leave the island but thinking back over the recent California posts it seems obvious. But then I was crying because the continuing posts about changing spoke directly to me and why I needed this Willard today. I am 64, I quit my job of 43 years recently, just went to talk to a financial advisor yesterday (!) and am overwhelmed with all the changes coming at me. I have got to look at these as opportunities, and print out this blog to remind me of that.
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I’m glad you’re coming back! (We met at a book signing in Avila over 20 years ago.) My husband and I tried living elsewhere than CA for five years and just had to come back. San Diego for us now. CA has beautiful moons, and suns, and no snow, and the central coast is just amazing. Choosing to be glad is a great choice. 🙂
My sister e-mailed me and said “Suzan is selling her House!’ and I knew it was you on MV. You are one brave woman making the right choices for that time in your life! Moving from CA Home, on your own, starting a new life, writing books, doing art, finding a Wonder life partner, and now ‘full circle’ back to CA. AND we all get to do it with you without us packing our ‘treasures’ (my kids would call it junk!) We are sending Blessings to you and Joe. Glad to share this adventure with you.
Kindred spirits! 😆 xoxo
Dear Susan, What a wonderful surprise! I didn’t see this coming for you, especially after seeing your posts about preparing the California home for sale. My husband and I live in Pennsylvania and are looking into a winter home in Florida. He wants to move there permanently. I’m not ready. It is exciting and overwhelming at the same time. I have slowly been downsizing but am rethinking which items I can take down there. One thing is for certain – life is never dull! Wishing you and Joe much happiness and years of good health and many beautiful sunsets. Take care. xo
Beautiful as always Susan! I’m in South Lake Tahoe now (from New Jersey). You helped me “maintain” myself and to get through to retirement. I’ll never forget your advice. No turning back for me. I know you’ll be happy here in California again, because you are happy. Your personal happiness travels with you. It’s not somewhere outside of us. Much love and thanks and best wishes for your safe travels and continued sharing of your beautiful perspectives. Marybeth
Don’t let the old woman and you will be fine!God bless you as you head home to California.Martha’s vineyard is a great place to visit.Open your wings and fly.
Following the contentment in your heart. Wisdom to know what to do, then to do it.
Love to you both. You two create the beauty and your California home will be transformed by your love and creativity! God bless you both. And thank you for sharing with us. What gifts you are!
My first post hasn’t shown up yet. I wanted to add that I didn’t listen to your Musica until after I’d posted my comment about the Beatle song. I know you’ve thought this through carefully, but what you will do about taking the ship to England from NY? Will the train let you bring all the luggage you usually take?! I actually thought that you might one day move to England!
Believe me we thought about it!!! But yes, train to NY, maybe a stop in MA first, and onto the ship we will go. 💝
Well I just had to leave a comment on this beautiful post – to salute the comments!! They are warming my heart. What a glorious supportive community of girlfriends. Loving you as I do my dearest friend, it means so much to me to see all this kindness and positivity coming your way …and I also know how much it will mean to you ♥️♥️
Could not agree more Ray!!! Aren’t they wonderful? Means the world. ❌⭕️❌ Talk soon!
Hello Susan,
My husband and I are beginning downsizing, and I feel your angst.
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Oh my, Susan. I am shocked and sad and happy all at the same time! I just got finished crying – your writing is so heartfelt and beautiful. My husband and I will be making this same choice after our youngest daughter graduates from college next year and we will definitely use you and Joe as our role models!! In the mean time, we will keep you in our thoughts and prayers. And I just know your new home will not only be beautiful, but it will be magical and filled with love!! Sending you and Joe our very best wishes!! Sharon and John Fritchman
P.S. John and I are planning a trip to California, Oregon, and Washington this summer and will be riding the train!!! Thanks for your inspiration.
“Cry For Joy” is the title of the book you could write next – all about life, accepting change with graciousness and a spirit of anticipation! It is what you have done your entire life and it is so inspiring! I love everything you wrote in this post and I’m thrilled for you and Joe! We are headed to Cambria next week for a vacation. We left California in 1988 and live in Colorado where we have to be very careful about the ice…always a delight to return to our sunny, ever existing garden state. Enjoy the goodbyes and the hellos! Loving you on all the roads of your journey!
Wise decision in preparing for the future while you are still in good health and able. The memories of the past 35 years will go with you. think of it as the new adventure of a lifetime. You’ll still get to take trains across the USA to get to the boat docks on the East Coast to travel to England! So excited for you, Joe & the cat of course!
Susan – Though we’ve never met, I hope it won’t sound strange to say that I am so happy for you and Joe and Jack- it sounds like a truly happy ending to one phase of life as you move on to the next, and a full circle moment for you with all the formerly missing pieces now included! You’ll have been in the perfect places at the perfect times … and it couldn’t happen to a nicer person – wishing you a joyful transition and many happy years in California 🩷
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We did something similar almost two years ago, it was gut-wrenching to leave behind a little patch that I had nurtured for 25 years, and it had definitely nurtured me. When the moment arrived to walk out for the very last time I didn’t linger, I figured I’d rip the band-aid of the past off and just barrel headlong into the future. BIG mistake. Oh, how I wish I’d gone room to room, placed my hands on the walls, and thanked that sweet house for keeping us safe in every storm, for absorbing our laughter and tears, for bearing witness to the seasons of our lives – we moved in as parents of busy little boys and moved out as new grandparents. Do your heart a favor and say a proper goodbye to every corner of the house and thank it for all of those beautiful years. Wishing you happiness and ease beyond your wildest dreams, and safe travels to you and your boys (Joe & Jack).
Such good advice!👏💞
Congratulations! Do it while you have each other,
and you are able.
PS) bet you both rejuvenate…
remember, life is strange, you may be back to island living someday-
So true, absolutely ANYTHING is possible!
Susan, I can’t thank you enough for your heartfelt Willard. For writing about challenges an older home presents to those of us getting older. For talking about taking a detailed look at the present state of things and what you want for your future. I have been stalling on making a move from my home in Connecticut of 39 years to my dream retirement home in northern Vermont that took nearly 22 years to finish. I keep asking myself, what happened to the adventurous me? I need to find that me again. I found in your Willard, encouragement and motivation. Think you! Oh, just have to tell you late one night, a week ago, when life’s worries were keeping me awake, I went online and found the movie Pollyanna on YouTube. I watched it for the first time. My mother read the book to me years and years ago. A wonderful story.
That’s a big part of how I feel: A new adventure! Oh Boy!👏👏👏👏 And when we get there, Joe will take the tractor and build us a “walk”, and we’ll put in trees and flowers, because 9 times around the property is 3 miles! Adventure!💞💞💞
I’m in shock… had to read twice… even tree times! But I understand where it comes from. I noticed how much you enjoyed your trip to California this time… you will really enjoy this new chapter of your life!
I will miss reading about Martha’s Vineyard. I was hoping to go there someday and “accidentaly” pass in front of Willard… and wave hello to you and Joe and Jack…
I wish you all the best, you’ll be delighted to be in the warm California sun, surrounded by your friends. You’ll love seeing this other ocean that you grew up with. You’ll love taking care of your garden all year round. You’ll shower us with pictures of flowers and sun! 🙂
Enjoy every moment! And lost of people will be delighted to have you over on your island when you come back to it.
Oh Susan!!! What a big wonderful, exciting new adventure awaits you and Joe and Jack! You are choosing joy, not sadness, an open heart and mind instead of fear. That’s not to say there won’t be sadness and some jitters, but you’ve got this and you are on to your next adventure. You will make you California home as cozy, and beautiful and love filled as your home on the island. Home is where your heart is and your heart will carry with you your Martha’s Vineyard life. Letting go and embracing the next experience, the next chapter is what we all must do. It’s how you choose to react to the changes that are inevitable for all of us is that makes the difference between living your best life or fearing the change. Thank you for sharing your decision with us. You are both an inspiration. I will welcome you to Cali when you make it here. I love our beautiful state! Sending big hugs from Thee Beverlee.
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“Closing the store is the brave thing to do.” Birdie in You’ve Got Mail. You’ll have each other, your beautiful home state, closer proximity to relatives, lots of tractor room. It will be great. Why do I feel like I’m going to miss you. (Strange, I know.)
I just watched this movie again this past week! It’s like a warm blanket and such a delight. Perfect complement to this situation!
I’m so confused! I thought you went to California to sell that house and stay on the east coast. Either way, change is hard even if it is a new adventure. Sounds like you are making some wise decisions about aging in the future, like we all should do after we get to (ahem), a certain age. I can’t to hear what the future brings for you.
Am I surprised, or not? Your passion for MV has been so great and all-consuming for so many years – it almost defies believe that you could leave. But. We are in our mid-seventies, living in a little log cabin in the woods of Southern Indiana, with our bedrooms and bathroom up very steep stairs to the second floor…….a decision in the offing, but delayed for now. I’m curious if you went to Ca with a sincere desire to clear it out and sell / or did your subconscious lead you there to present the obvious choice? You have many friends there/ grew up in the area- a sense of coming home to ease your heart. I think Joe just wants to be wherever you are – can see the benefits of no longer being the caretaker of an aging house – and I expect he will settle in very nicely. I will continue to follow all you share of your art, your writings and your life. I wish you all contentment and happiness. God’s blessings to all of you. 🙏❤️
Had no idea when we went to California … we cleaned it out, had an estate sale, and then, the day before we left, I was supposed to sign papers to put house on the market . . . but I couldn’t do it. We didn’t make the decision until we got back home in MA … and then it was the numbers that sealed our future . . . 💖
Dear Sue … and that’s why I love you so much: heart warming and so very very wise💝💝💝 Your homecoming to CA is full circle plus new adventures w/new perspectives💝💝💝A-lo-ha-ha Evie💝🌸💝
Godspeed 🙏 New adventures are always exciting to me !!
One more thing. Maybe a new book…. Meditations on change. ❤️❤️❤️
What wonderful, unexpected news! I don’t know why but when you left CA last, it made me feel so sad! You’ve made a tough decision, but you are so positive in your outlook that I have no doubts that it will be the right decision for you and Joe. I can’t wait for all the moving updates!
Awww! You are so wise my dear Susan Branch!
I am excited for you and Joe! Thank you for sharing your lives with us.
We will all continue to love you wherever you are.
Susan, beautiful how you say that you and Joe will love each other through this move. You must be experiencing a huge range of emotions. Love your new old doll. She’s a sweetie. Take care of each other and pace yourselves. Dioes Joe have family in California, too? Hugs, Elaine
No, except mine, who adores him . . . and a beloved niece in Colorado … 💖
Dear Susan, Joe and Jack
Best to you all on your new adventure!
Safe travels!
God Bless, Sandi 🙂
Susan, I’m a bit confused about the house in CA… Is it the one you were packing up (Joe was procrastinating in packing the file cabinet 😉) and thinking of putting up for sale? If so, there’s 8 acres of property there? 👏🏻 And what is the Spring Street house? The one you’re in now? Sorry… just trying to put the pieces together and envision your new digs!
So happy for you, and it sounds like the right decision for both of you. Hope you have family close in CA…
Yes, we’ve lived at the Spring Street House in Martha’s Vineyard since 1989 … visited California at a house we bought 23 years ago, the one with the 8 acres. We’re now moving to the California house and selling the Vineyard House.💝
I pretty much never comment here, but I’ve been following you since the early ’90’s and was here for your very first Willards that you sent by snail mail. I’ve always loved them! You have been such an inspiration to me! Thank you for sharing your life with us all! I’m excited to be along for the next step in your journey 🙂
Love having you Lora!😘
I cannot even speak or type my feelings right now. I cannot even read the current posted comments, but will later.
You might have heard my gasp from CA. Your news sent shock waves through my being. I held back building tears! I feel everything that you are feeling. I am happy that you have such a gorgeous piece of property to go to. I am happy that you have Joe, and more importantly, JACK!
Your island friends will be devastated to lose your close proximity, but I know there will be reunions on your CA property…something for all to look forward.
So, for now, sending squeezy hugs as you pack up for the future. Do not forget to get a TON of kleenex boxes for the inevitable flood of goodbyes and the drive away from your heart of the home on Martha’s Vineyard. Know that the Girlfriends’ hearts are taking the emotional “adventure” with you and we all send love.
Will write again soon.
Congratulations- leaving what we love is so very hard but I believe you and Joe have made the right decision.
California dreaming will be your new mantra.
I’m excited to be with you on your journey west again.
Best of luck and thank you for sharing your journey.
Oh, my! What a struggle for you to go through. Selfishly, I love that you and Joe will be close by on the Central Coast, a truly beautiful part of the world. How heartbreaking to leave your life on Martha’s Vineyard. New adventures await! Thank you for including us on the journey.❤️😢🥰
It’s Julie Child again… of Northern California fame. I just knew you wouldn’t sell that piece of Heaven. So happy you will be back home. Another great adventure. Best of luck. And yes to a picnic!
Sending you the biggest hug ever…🩷
Julie
When I started to read the beginning, it sounded like one of you could be terribly sick! I guess that was my immediate thought because so many in my circles are going through those kind of problems, including my husband. Not knowing what the days ahead hold, can be scary. So I am so glad to know you both are healthy & well and have a plan.
Hello Susan, I am sorry I cried when I read your post. I guess being a reader for many years and loving your posts, reading your books, seeing pictures, etc, I felt you have been like a sister to me and you have been a role model to me. I always thought you would live in your house forever. I loved your kitchen, your celebrations and all the pictures you posted of your house. However, I know this chapter is ending and another one is to begin for you. I am wishing you all the best in your new adventure and may you be abundant in health and happiness.
Dear Susan and Joe, Cheering you on to this new life-it will be grand. We know, my husband and I, because we just moved at ages 90 and 84! We moved too much and wondered where all that stuff came from when we unpacked, but there it was and we dealt with it. We moved form the San Francisco Bay Area to the foothills of the Sierra Nevada mountains to be near our son, in Placerville, and near our grandson and family in Folsom. WE did the right thing and even though we still work, we have so much to look forward to: learning the area, seeing where the wildflowers are, meeting people in the shops and restaurants. It’s a grand life to make new decisions and then find it’s the right thing all along. It’s all going to be ok and once you leave the old place, the new one kicks in. The memories are there, intact and beautiful. It’s all going to be ok and you are putting into place so many things in your favor that will suit you. You’re going to be great and it’s amazing how resilient and adaptable we humans are. All the best-you can do it, you are doing it, you will do it!
Love, Sandy Guderyon
GOOD FOR YOU!!!💝💝💝💝💝
It’s so amazing how God, the universe, whatever you believe gives us what we need at just the right time! After seeing a new doctor for my very bad back, I made the decision to go live in a beautiful new senior living community in a month at her suggestion. I’m 70 but, like you, I’m 23 inside 😄 It’s been very difficult to cope with my imposed limitations at what I feel is too soon. I’m grateful that I don’t have so many other things that would be so much worse. But my wings have been clipped. 50 years as a registered nurse didn’t help! Thank you for reminding me to be grateful, as I am every day, and I so appreciate your understanding of how very hard this is. I cried through the entire blog entry! I know I’m not the only one trying to cope and this entry came at just the right time…bless you! I’m in San Diego if you ever want to come visit ❤️
Best wishes for you and Joe (and Jack, and Petey, and new/old dolly, etc, etc), as you transition back to CA. As with those who have already responded to your new news, I was so surprised to read about your move back to CA. It’s going to take me a few minutes to wrap my head around the fact that a recently posted Willard had you closing down your CA house and talking to realtors. I was mourning “the loss” of your CA house! Now I’m mourning “the loss” of your Vineyard house! LOL – as I have often told my 2 daughters – Life can be so “lifey” – and this is a perfect example, made even more so because of the basis for your decision. When I celebrated my 70th birthday 3 years ago, I started to think in terms of “finite” rather than “infinite”. It was sobering – a new way of thinking of things. But, like you and Joe, my husband and I “put on our waders” and made dramatic changes. We have tied up loose ends, moved to single-floor living in an active 55+ community where we had the opportunity to design and build our “forever home”, and we feel so grateful when we watch the Grounds Crew shovel snow in the winter and mow our lawn in the summer! There is a certain peace that comes with taking on “responsibility”. I wish this same peace for you and Joe! Enjoy!
Dear Susan, I kind of had a feeling you’d be coming out my way! You have so
many beautiful memories in Martha’s Vineyard and you’ll make many more here in California. So many more adventures for you. Maybe I’ll run into you some day!Wishing you a wonderful trip out west!
Holding joy in one hand and sorrow in the other … just as you said, all will be well. When I was leaving my home of 26 years, I read this aloud everyday: All is well. Everything is unfolding for my highest good. Out of this move, only good can come.
And so it is, dear Susan. You probably have more well-wishers than any woman who has ever moved homes!!!
Oh my! What an amazing adventure you are going to have! I understand the mix of emotions but this is going to be wonderful. I am in the process of having the same thoughts and am currently looking for a home that helps us age gracefully and is close to my daughter. Changes are so tough, but a positive attitude keeps the sorrow at bay and gives us the opportunity to enjoy a different path. I can’t wait to see how you decorate your California home and tend your year round garden. Bless you both and enjoy every moment of this unexpected journey.
Linda
I was so surprised to hear your news. The good thing is nothing is ever permanent and Marthas Vineyard will always be there. Good luck on your new adventure, I am looking forward to following you on your cross country trip 💕
I am so happy for you! The worst part of anything is MAKING THE DECISION!
My daddy left me with a lot of love and wisdo and these 3 words , “Don’t Look Back!”
You and Joe are so blessed. You have each other! And you have two wonderful choices!
You can go back and visit anytime you want! You have shared your love story and shared your life with us. You have seen me through my darkest days and helped me remember to smile,
And keep going. It will be an adventure – an extended vacation – and more train trips.
Dearest Susan … Oh My Oh My, I am taking deep breaths upon your exciting exciting news! My heart is beating and racing rapidly .. and I feel we’ll cross paths on Moonstone Beach and even share an Olallieberry Pie at Linn’s .. WELCOME Home to CA … A-lo-ha-ha, Evie
I’m seventy-five and have lived in the same house for fifty years. Brought our children here as little boys and a baby girl. Every time we talk of selling, our children get upset,so we will live here until we can’t anymore. Just bought a new greenhouse, so I still can play. Life will go on, no matter what. You are blessed to have a home to move to that you love and friends can visit and you can still take walks on the beach and have Jack to play with. Only thing I recommend is that once you move, get another kitten. Jack might appreciate a like minded buddy while he adapts to his new home. Cats don’t like change. I will look forward to reading about your new adventures
I support any choices you make my dear friend…..but I’ll tell ya one thing…ya ain’t gonna like the taxes in California or the price of gas….it’s a huge failing state. But I wish you luck….and I’m witcha on the stair thing!!!! Lol!! Good luck!! We all will follow you anywhere because we ALL love you guys dearly❤️❤️❤️❤️
Dear Susan, you should have titled this blog “Going Home” because that is what you are doing. You ran away and stayed for a few years and now you’re going back. Makes perfect sense. Can I ask a favor? Please could you do a video of your whole house before you go? I have studied each room numerous times and would love to see how they are attached to each other. Especially your pantry. One other thing, you are being too hard on yourself about your china sets, take another one! If you don’t have room for it when you get there, I bet there is a sister who would take it off your hands! You are so brave. I admire you so much. Love, Debby ps I have been reading about the Beatles for a few months now. So much fun. I think I might have the house where you met them figured out. There are soo many books about them!
This post really resonated with me. My husband of 48 years died in December, and I was left in the split level house where we’d lived for 41 of those. I thought that if I could just saw the house in half horizontally and smooth out the hilly lot, it would be so fine. However, lacking degrees in both engineering and architecture, I just couldn’t figure out how to do it.
Fast forward to March when I saw a house in a town sixty miles away from where I’d lived my entire life, but very close to my son and daughter-in-law and their three little carrots, and bada-boom, the old house listed and sold the first day, and I bought this one. No steps, nary a one. The yard is as flat as a flitter. I’m not so VERY far away from “home”, just sixty little minutes. And my other son will be married at the beginning of June, and this brought me to just sixty minutes from him and my soon-to-be-daughter-in-law-two.
I’m giving the moving experience no stars and no thumbs up. It was just a ridiculous lot of work. But that part is behind, and I’m making it. You’re going WITH your Joe, and you have lots of living left to do. How exciting- I wish I were excited, but I honestly don’t feel much of anything. It’s strange.
I’ll be excited with you now in your move, if you don’t mind. Just please don’t ask me to come help you unpack. 😊
There is no way around the ‘bittersweet’ feelings of leaving a beloved home of so many years and all the memories (including meeting Joe). But wherever the two of you go to live, you have each other and what better gift could there be.
That you can return to the Island to visit is wonderful and having friends already in both places is a plus.
Love to you both and thank you for letting ‘us’ travel with you – literally as you post the trips but also the inner travels that eventually take you to new places – always with heart intact and the joys awaiting, too.
You came for ‘three months, just to try it’….and now it’s on to the next season in life, right??
Right there with you.
Like you could leave me behind somehow…!!!
It is exciting. I went to the island because of you, and I have never been to California, so…..!!
Wowsers, this is BIG NEWS! As a California girl living in North Carolina, I understand the allure of our West Coast home. Your CA house happens to be in one of my favorite areas on earth. Transitions are hard, goodbyes are difficult, and yet seeing the sunset on the West Coast will be a wonderful thing indeed! Toasting you, Joe and Jack as you prepare for your move across the country. California is lucky to have you back!!
So Happy for you both. Enjoy ! I’m sure you will be back on visits now and again. Your friends on island will be missing you . We made a move from a large house (Tudor) to a much smaller home about 15 years ago. It has made our life so much better. (One level) Only regret is no basement and not enough closet space . Other than that….Life is beautiful ! Wish you and Joe the only the best on your new adventure.
Susan, I love your positive attitude! Yes, this will be an adventure. That is absolutely the best way to do this thing. It is so hard some days to look in the mirror and realize that my 30 year old self is actually 67 (almost) now. Where does the time go? You are so smart to do this while you are still able. We cannot put this off until later, as we are not getting any younger. I know you and Joe will settle in and love your place in California soon enough. Think of all the redecorating and “nesting” you’ll get to do when you arrive. Finding all the perfect places for your things. To me that is the best part of moving. Making everything just so for yourselves. And isn’t Martha Stewart amazing? I cheer her all the time for her continued accomplishments. She is a true example of how good life can be. I will be following along with you in Instagram as you tackle this endeavor. Good luck and Godspeed to you.
Dearest, how you tugged at my heart with all this! Passages. All a part of life no matter what form they are. They make us redefine life. They always bring us to where we need to be or where we are meant to be. I have loved you living here in Massachusetts! I love knowing you were nestled on the island & will forever cherish the opportunities I got to meet you when you took the ferry over. Photos will last me as will the joy you placed upon my heart. Your work & play is purposeful & everlasting! It knows no address & we look forward to remaining on the journey with you. We can’t deny the tears nor can we deny the excitement for what lies ahead. Blessings to you & Joe at this tender time. We’re all in it with you. I will miss your musings & the beauty shared from this side of the map for absolute sure but there’s more in store in the west. I know New England will always be “home” to you, too! And beloved you remain to all of us here. ♥️
And meant to say the California decision sounds good!!!! All the very best!!!
So happy you’re able to be positive about your decision! My husband and I are making the same decision. We are leaving our beautiful 120 year old farmhouse for a “practical” single story. But as long as there’s plenty of space to squeeze in all our loved ones for holidays, birthdays, or just whenever, we will be happy. And I think that’s where the character of a house comes from anyway – the people who fill it!
Oh Susan, why are the wisest and bravest decisions always the most painful? Take time to grieve well, then pack up anyway. But before you go, take the time to visit each room and whisper your fondest memories there. The echos of your stories will bring joy and new life to the future caretakers, and also comfort your house as it too grieves the loss of you.
Then when you take one last big GULP and load up the Conestoga wagon to head west across the plains from sea to the next shining sea, know that you will land on sunny shores where new treasures are yet to be discovered. Much love and hugs to you as you navigate your way through this great big wise and brave decision.
California has called you home. So happy for you! “There’s no place like home” 🏠
Oh wow!! My jaw actually dropped when I read that news bc that was not something I expected to ever read from you! But, all things considered, I can understand why you both have made that decision. And, like you said, there will be visits back to the island just like you made to California. Best wishes to you both in this new adventure! Thank you for including us all – I can’t wait to see!! 🙂
I wish you all well in your new adventure. I suspected this news would be forthcoming when you left CA without signing P&S. Onward and upward. That’s why windshields are so big and rearview mirrors are small. You’ll always have wonderful memories of MV, and it will be wonderful to be back in CA. Keep us posted on your trip too! Can’t wait…..I’ve enjoyed being so many places with you. Most of all enjoy every minute. jcl
“That’s why windshields are so big and rear view mirrors are small “. FABulous perspective, Joanne…just love it and so appropriate to share right now.
There are so many beautifully expressed insights on this Willard. This community of Girlfriends knows how to express and share their hearts…and like you, in so many insightful ways.
Cheers to the views from your big windshield!
Dear Susan,
What a nice surprise to read about your ‘big’ move back here. I live in Los Osos and often shop in that AG Trader Joe’s. We moved here for our retirement and never regretted coming to the Central Coast. We too had to downsize and it’s both liberating and scary at the same time. Since you have lived here you know all about it and you already know people here which is a big plus.
We have loved reading and seeing photos of your island home in MA and those memories will never leave you. It’s a lovely New England home that is quite different from anything around here. Take care and have a safe journey.
I can relate to all you wrote Susan. 21 years ago, my husband called me at work to say we were moving from San Antonio to Ft. Worth. Not too far away but we had just built the home of our dreams and our first grandchild was expected in a few months. I had to leave my job and a lifetime of friends. We decided that we could be miserable or happy – our choice. But what a wonderful life we have had. So many great new friends and experiences! But now that we are retired, the question is do we stay or go back. As of now, we stay but the question is always in the back of our minds. May you have a smooth move (as much as possible) and have fun in your next adventure.
Where will you be most secure? Both financially and physically. Those are the questions. . . xoxoxo
Besides the news being a bit of a surprise, I find myself admiring how you were able to express all your deepest emotions to your faithful readers. My heart goes out to you and Joe for a wonderful life-changing decision—your news made me weep for your absolute and steadfast love of this home and life you have. God speed, dear friend.
I have always loved your posts and blogs (always so inspiring), and we girlfriends will follow you wherever you go – because we love you! Much good luck and love to you and Joe! Forward!!!
XOXO
Holy smoke! What exciting news! I can’t add anything original to all the other posts, but I’m just happy you’ll be back on our side of the country. It is a practical decision, and a very smart one, and California is lucky to have you both.
You’ll be living a bicoastal life as often as you can, I imagine, and that’ll just be more fuel for art and Willards. I’ll be interested to see how it all evolves for you and Joe.
Welcome back!
Oh my goodness…..surprising news! enjoy the journey!
Bittersweet but I hope will be sweet when you get there!! We moved last year from Memphis to Chicago to be in a better place for our trans child. It wasn’t planned – we decided and within 3 months we were on the move! The downsizing was liberating and the new experiences are thrilling. We are doing this with 2 kids and a dog and we are all so much happier. I hope you will find the same joy with your crew. I read that moving is one of the few things that can incrementally increase your happiness in life and for us, it’s been true. I wish the same for you.
What a post! I honestly sort of wondered when you didn’t put the CA property on the market – I knew you were contemplating. I’ve always wondered how you could do the work on your current home, being so huge. I so want to downsize and make things easier at this point! But hubby will not. Best wishes, bittersweet move, but knowing too you can visit anytime. And debt free is AWESOME – It’s its own dopamine! And winter – yeah… I grew up in snow-land and just can’t do it. While I absolutely love it in spring through fall, winter is just a no go. I’m excited for you. I hope everything goes well. Has Joe lived there before? I forget! Next year when winter arrives on MV in full blast, you’ll be glad you’re where you’re at. Both places have their absolute beauty. Praying for it all to go well and you just enjoy it and leave the stress behind and continue living your dreams.
You are so joyful in this — and so fast, though I suspect the decision wasn’t instant in its coming. I have the same plan, though mine is four years down the road. But the downsizing has begun because there is a lot and I want to find the right homes for it. I’ll be in the same boat with china — but I don’t think I can narrow to two! It’s a tough decision but you are looking at this with such an open heart — and of course California will have wonderful new adventures and you are up for them all. Much love and good wishes.
Ohhhh yes, contemplating this and living in denial for YEARS!😂 You don’t know until you know!
Dearest Sue, So many of us have walked this path recently and it is not easy but I promise dear one if there is any one in the world that has the courage to take on this new adventure it is you and Joe. You have always found the good in everything you do, go forward and follow your dreams. You will walk a new loop each day, a warm walk and most days it will be sunny. No more down the steep steps, not more ladders… You and Joe are on the best journey and now it is heading west like Calamity Jane. You are pulling up the boot straps, shedding things you don’t need because remember what William Morris said, Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful or beautiful! Know you are in my prayers each day and know you are loved by so many, especially us! Good Tidings, Dawn Jones❤️🙏🏠🇺🇸
The best decision! Welcome back to CA!! Joe is all you need! 🌹💐❤️❤️
Dear Susan,
Wow! Just wow. This is a wonderful surprise. Scary and exciting all at the same time. So happy for you to be back in your ole stomping grounds. Blessings to you, Joe and Jack on this next adventure. It’s never, ever too late for an adventure 😎🌞
We can so relate because my husband and I just did the same thing a year and a half ago. We both retired after living in Valencia, California for 30 years and felt it was best at our ages to be by our kids, grandkids and siblings. So we packed it all up (after getting rid of box loads of stuff lol) we moved to the Midwest to a ranch style home with an HOA that takes care of our lawn and snow removal. We had a really great life in California but we have now come full circle and are Happy Happy 😊
Enjoy the ride. Home is where your Heart is 🩷
Much Love,
Debbie R from Godfrey, IL
Hi Susan,
I started balling at the beginning of your newsletter. A total shocker.
And it was like you were talking just to me since I am confronted with a change that I have been fighting and didn’t even know it.
You wrapped it up so beautifully and wonderfully and now I’m smiling.
For you, for Joe, and for myself. The encouragement from you and your writing, I cannot thank you enough. Good luck on the move. It’s going to be a great new adventure.
With love,
Laurie
We’re all in it together, if not now, then soon. xoxoxo
Thank you Susan for your very heartfelt words. I admire how you and Joe made the tough decision to move and how you plan to use what you already have to make your new home your own. It will be a joy for the rest of us to watch your redecorating! Also thank you for the tutorial on watercolors. I attempted watercolors more than several times and just started figuring out a technique that works for me. However I am always open to learning more! When you are less busy, could you share a short video of you painting?
Again, thank you and God bless you both.
You are moving from your house and the life you made there. I was forcibly removed from my job. I worked for 37 years in the same department and one day was given the option, if that’s what you want to call it, to retire or leave without retirement benefits. All thanks to an HR person hired specifically to “clean House”. Needless to say, I was angry, hurt and felt so helpless and useless. As it happened, as so often it does, my early retirement at 60 was the best thing that could have happened to me. Spending more time with family and friends. Taking care of those I love and things I love doing. Rest easy in your decision. The best it yet to come.
“As it so often does . . .” well said Barb! xoxoxo
Wow, now that’s news! So happy for you and Joe, I’m sure warmer breezes and your lovely home will be smashing, sad to say goodby to the island but more magic awaits! It makes sense! So cheers 🥂 to another adventure! I wish you both loads more laughter and happiness . Happy packing,
Rick and I are coming out in October to New England but I guess you’ll be in your home in California by then ! I might have a nosy at your house on the island we’re having a day there to check out island life! because who wouldn’t 🤣 look after each other there will be tears and laughter I’m sure, everything you said really resinated with me.
Looking forward to all the amazing stories and fairytales to come all the best Andi & Richard Geary xxxx
At first I was shocked – had to stop reading for a moment (I LOVE your island home so so much)- but after reading the entire blog and thinking about it all – you have definitely made the right decision for this time of your life! Aren’t you so thankful you have such a wonderful option – your California home! I’m looking forward to going on this journey with you and Joe. My husband and I lived at a lake far from town (doctors, hospital, etc) – and finally decided about 10 years ago to make the move to a patio home in town. We love our little home – and of course miss the lake!!! But it was definitely the right move for us at the right time before we were too old to handle all that goes with downsizing and moving. He’s 84 now and I’m 78 – and if I had to face such a move now I don’t know how we could do it. Love to you and that special man Joe!!!
I can’t tell if I’m more upset about the move or the Rose Chintz (my very favorite) 😂. What I’ve discovered after many years of life and the difficult decisions we are forced to make and accept that are out of our control is that we are stronger than we think we are, and it’s the love we carry in our hearts for those who love us that will get us through anything. You are such an inspiration Susan. 🥰
Jane
I am glad that you are making the logical choice to move permanently to the house in California. We recently rebuilt a home for our adult son and his family next door to us. We made everything in it for old people: single level living, ADA wide doors and hallways, level entry at the front door, roll in shower for someone in a wheelchair in the master bath, etc. When we get too old to climb to the second floor in our house, we are going to trade houses. So I truly understand the process you went through. We will be glad to have you back in California and hope for get-togethers that we might actually be able to attend.
shocking news! I live in Cambria and got to meet you a few years back in Morro Bay. So we will be welcoming you back to our central coast. It feels like heaven here 🙂 I saw a recent photo on Epic Gardening (0r Botanical Interests) showing a garden in AG owned by a “Kelly”. It was beautiful and kind of like an English garden. It made me wonder if it was “your” Kelly. You and Joe will have a wonderful time growing beautiful and tasty fruit and flowers. Best wishes for a wonderful new adventure!
I don’t think so . . . she would probably have told me!😆💞
Why is my comment waiting moderation? Just curious.
Because I’m taking too long to read everything!!! But I can’t resist these wonderful comments!!💝
😄 love it!!! ❤️
Hi Susan!
I had a good cry reading your post. We all have or will someday be facing the decisions you and Joe are making. I’m glad you’re making them on your terms. I’ve been on this adventure with you since first purchasing The Summer Book way back when. In my fairytale mind, I always thought you would wind up at Holly Oak again, but California makes so much sense for so many of the reasons you mentioned. CA is home too! “California here I come, right back where I started from!’ Good luck with the move. I know you and Joe will be so happy there. xoxoxo
Susan reading your blog brought tears to my eyes. I have loved the pictures of your amazing home on MV, the history it holds, your amazing garden, pictures of the changing seasons and the feeling of happiness and contentment you have portrayed while living there. As someone in their mid 60’s I totally understand the importance of planning for the future as we age. I moved to a new house last fall (two story with stairs) and I know my time here will be limited. It was also a hard move because of all the belonging I have. The move taught me the importance of downsizing my “stuff”. I have since donated a lot of my belongings and as a result, my world seems lighter and more manageable. I don’t have children either and you are correct in saying when you don’t have kids, it’s easy to think you are still in your 30’s and don’t need to deal with the responsibility of aging.
I know you will embrace your life in California, and it will be an equally wonderful chapter of your life. I look forward to hearing about your adventures on the west coast. Good luck with the move!
Susan, you are full of surprises still! As it happens I am putting my home of 33 years up for sale and moving to a one floor apartment in a senior community (comes with a lovely screened porch and small garden area!) You and I are one year apart and remember the same time growing up and coming of age. My beloved husband of nearly 55 years died 2 years ago and I finally made the decision to leave the house I’ve lived in the longest in my life. I’m slowly sorting things and trying to ready the house – it’s been my friend and shelter for so long but I really believe it’s time to let it go. Best wishes on your move – we can do this!
Bravo! As my mom used to say. This is a brave choice to make, and you will be moving toward something new! As a previous girlfriend wrote, you will be happy because you are a happy person. If I could choose a beautiful little home in a temperate climate, I’d make the same decision that you did. Here’s to new adventures, new dreams and new gardens.
After recently sailing on the Queen Victoria for nearly a month, being surrounded by lots of 80 + year olds, I decided they are very inspiring, engaged and interesting people with lots of enthusiasm for life! Let’s be like them.
Let’s! The Queen Victoria is heaven!!!
Susan,
Only 861 miles from King’s English Bookstore!
Pat Bates
There you go!!!😆🤣👏👏👏
Dear Sue,
So much wisdom in all your words! What a life God has given you. I’m in California, you cannot beat the weather and there is so much beauty here, especailly around AG! I love your 1849 HUGE home, but I truly believe you are doing the right thing in preparing for the next stage of life (that, by the way, could be a very good number of years). Putting yourself in a less to care for, more secure financial position screams RESPONSIBILITY and it’s good. Life is good. God is good. We focus on all the positive things that will benefit you. I’m around your neck of the woods often, I hope I see you sometime. We have met at book signings in Morrow Bay and the surrounding area over the years, but I’d likely never make it to Martha’s Vineyard to run into you 🙂 So I’m already excited!
Much love to you and Joe.
Debby
Change is hard, but you have the right attitude! I’m glad you have such a beautiful place to be going to. And we have the ability to bloom wherever we are planted.
I knew something was afoot. My heart breaks for you. Thank you so much for all the advice…I’m in the same boat, 5 years older than my husband, in our 70s,no kids, and should have moved to a single story years ago. Your positive attitude inspires me. Even though I’m trying to pare down I’m so envious of those who get to go to your sale! Sending good vibes your way ♥And thank you for taking us along with you! ♥
Dear, dear Susan – I am so happy for you! Beautiful coastal California is quite a draw. I’ve visited many times but first fell in love with it on a visit 15 years ago when your charming store in Arroyo Grande was on our itinerary. Bliss! Looking forward with eager anticipation to the ‘Tales of The Move’ Willard. Traveling mercies to you, Joe, Jack, Petey, et al. Onward and upward!
I would love to have your house but I can see the same reasons you are leaving. But, you will have beautiful flowers, warm days, yummy fruit, and new adventures. The best to you on you move. Wish I could go to the sale but a long drive from Tennessee!.